Judge: 13-year-old girl gets lighter sentence if her ponytail gets cut off

[lumberjack_jeff]

151. Shame is an inherent feature.

At every age we want to conform to the group norm, and shame is the feeling we experience when our actions inhibit it. When you're 13 and 14, it's upside down. A teen who sticks up for the kid being bullied or otherwise fail to conform feels shame, (it is only mitigated to some degree by the belief that we are right).

You cant avoid shame, so it's important to make sure that it's channeled and directed appropriately.

The boys on the video should feel ashamed. Until they're grown ups, avoiding fear, shame and pain are the only things that inhibit them from doing all the maladapted things that impulse control deficient adolescents do.

The fact that their frontal lobes aren't fully connected to the rest of their brains isn't a social construct. Since the frontal lobes aren't talking clearly to the animal parts of their brains, you have to reach the animal parts; pain, fear, shame. Of the three, shame is the least harmful.