So what did Melania have to do that was more important than being a hostess to Mrs. Abe?

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10. Was it her choice?

Perhaps we should be sneering at Ivanka. Or perhaps she had no say in this either.

I've never seen anything to specifically admire in Melania or Ivanka, or to especially despise lacking further information. They were both already in the middle of very complex situations with a dysfunctional authoritarian husband and father--before he became 45 and stuff really hit the fan from all directions.

It'd be interesting to know how they'd both behave if he were not expecting them both to grab every sleazy opportunity to make money (as I strongly suspect) and if their relationships with this dysfunctional creep were not so delicate that disagreeing and disobeying could potentially turn him against them.

As for Mrs. Abe, my guess is understands as well as the psychologists and other experts they undoubtedly have analyzing 45's actions for them can manage and does not take it personally.