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TexasBushwhacker

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11. Do you spend a lot of time with them? Can you agree on some ground rules?

Reply to Comatose Sphagetti (Original post)

Sat Feb 25, 2017, 12:12 PM

Feb 2017

My dad's widow supported Trump because she said "we need a change". She knows my views. I don't bring up politics and if she does I just say "Barbara, you know my views, let's not argue about politics" and I change the subject. If she brings it up again, I just act like a broken record and say "Barbara, you know my views, let's not argue about politics".

You aren't going to change their views. They aren't going to change yours. My guess is they would have voted for a serial killer if he was the Republican candidate. Humans have a remarkable ability to compartmentalize, and ignore things they don't want to think about.

You may not be able to be as close to them as you want to be, but that doesn't mean they can't be in your life. Just refuse to discuss politics with them.

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My feelings have changed for my sisters. [View all] Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2017 OP

What's their reasoning for supporting Trump? qanda Feb 2017 #1

I really don't know. Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2017 #2

The 2 Corinthians still bother me. The sexual harassment 3 Wives politely ask them why it doesn't . classykaren Feb 2017 #10

It's probably a religious thing then. qanda Feb 2017 #14

The leader of Christians worldwide had all but called Trump Drahthaardogs Feb 2017 #34

Here are two really good resources qanda Feb 2017 #15

Forgiveness is a great way to personal peace. They don't even have to know. Bernardo de La Paz Feb 2017 #3

Forgive them? are you serious? For having a different view or opinion? frankieallen Feb 2017 #36

I think for supporting bigotry, misogyny and racism bhikkhu Feb 2017 #38

The poster was not arrogant at all. OhioBlue Feb 2017 #39

If it were only as simple as a "different view or opinion" then forgiveness would not be needed. .nt Bernardo de La Paz Feb 2017 #40

This is very similar to my own situation. boston bean Feb 2017 #4

How sad for you frankieallen Feb 2017 #37

Keep on loving them. Kath2 Feb 2017 #5

I am curious. How or why did you change? Was it gradual or a sudden shift? Dream Girl Feb 2017 #7

Both. Kath2 Feb 2017 #13

Thanks for that, interesting that you may have been a closet liberal. Kind of supports the theory Dream Girl Feb 2017 #17

It is very strange. Kath2 Feb 2017 #19

You sound like me, same age, but I'm African American Dream Girl Feb 2017 #24

I'm with you sister. Kath2 Feb 2017 #25

You actually went to San Fransisco. Kath2 Feb 2017 #33

I understand your struggle. smirkymonkey Feb 2017 #6

Perhaps taking a break from them Ilsa Feb 2017 #8

This is playing out everywhere. My sister and I became so disturbed vanlassie Feb 2017 #9

Do you spend a lot of time with them? Can you agree on some ground rules? TexasBushwhacker Feb 2017 #11

Don't spend much time with them. Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2017 #12

" My guess is they would have voted for a serial killer if he was the Republican candidate. " DemocratSinceBirth Feb 2017 #28

People who talk politics all the time are bores. AngryAmish Feb 2017 #16

Best post of the day my friend!! frankieallen Feb 2017 #22

Never abandon family. They are wrong to support Trump. Blue_true Feb 2017 #18

This Comatose Sphagetti Feb 2017 #20

Never? Idoru Feb 2017 #23

I have a hard time with this. Jakes Progress Feb 2017 #26

Make a deal with them not to discuss politics. They're your sisters for Christ sake. frankieallen Feb 2017 #21

I can't put politics before family either Bayard Feb 2017 #29

I have right leaning family as well as friends, I love and treasure them as much as frankieallen Feb 2017 #35

My mom is a Trump supporter Johnny2X2X Feb 2017 #27

I have a beloved cousin who is the same. Will not talk politics with him. MoonRiver Feb 2017 #30

I have a sibling like that CountAllVotes Feb 2017 #31

I can endure because I predict the Trumpists will have their comeuppance. It's just a matter of time manicraven Feb 2017 #32

I really don't understand giving up family because of politics. KentuckyWoman Feb 2017 #41