Calling a woman a skank, tramp, bitch, whore, stripper is still misogyny

[meadowlander]

182. Um, no.

If both partners aren't deciding mutually where, when, how and who they sleep with then it is rape. Nobody is the "gatekeeper".

Women are slut shamed because for thousands of years society said that men owned their wives and that it was acceptable to use violence and coercion and shaming to ensure that "their" women only slept with them so they could be sure that their children were genetically theirs. We can thank slut shaming on the fact that it is obvious who a child's mother is, but not immediately obvious, pre-genetic testing, who the father is. Since fathers are expected to devote significant resources into raising children they can't be sure are theirs and because they are physically stronger than women and controlled more resources because they did not have to stop work to take care of babies, we got to experience the lovely shackles of patriarchy which we still haven't managed to throw off.

Women have also been told for thousands of years that their bodies are dirty and a source of shame and that they need to hide them so that they don't inflame lust in the wrong man. Every major world religion teaches this including Buddhism, where being reincarnated as a woman is a punishment, Judaism where women are supposed to hide under a sheet when they have sex and be kept isolated during their periods, and Christianity where women are told their destiny is to be subservient helpmeets to their husbands.

Sexual promiscuity is not inherently dangerous except in the context of a society that views women as property and a woman who refuses to be the property of one man as someone who needs to be put in her place.

Now that we have contraception and antibiotics, there is nothing inherently unhealthy or unsafe about having multiple partners. And it is certainly not more unhealthy or more unsafe for a woman to do this than a man.

To the point, it's none of my damn business how many people someone else wants to sleep with, nor is it yours. And being judgmental about it, particularly when you don't have any of the facts in front of you, says a lot more about you than it does about the person you are trying to shame back into their place.