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38. So true! My elderly ex-mother-in-law (MIL) was trying to light cigarettes, but she was actually

Thu Mar 9, 2017, 04:08 PM

Mar 2017

lighting various paper objects on fire. She kept falling down, too, and my ex-father-in-law (FIL) could barely lift her as it's pretty tough to get someone up off the floor when they're limp. He couldn't even take a shower or go to the grocery store without problems or feeling extremely worried. He hired a nurse to come in a couple times a week, but she was unable to handle MIL as she had become very defiant and paranoid due to advancing dementia. She got progressively worse and finally had to be placed in a facility. MIL did rally for a brief time as they were able to get her walking and eating at a table and controlled her hygiene, but she did overall steadily decline and recently passed away after only a few months in the facility. It was an agonizing, stressful, exhausting situation for my FIL.

There will be real life consequences to this terrible action by the GOP/trump. I wonder if the trumpsters will ever realize they're getting LESS from the trump and the GOP with the repeal of the ACA and not better as trump claims?

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Get Ready To Pay $60,000 Per Annum For Relative's Long Term Care. [View all] TheMastersNemesis Mar 2017 OP

In Wisconsin the average per month for nursing homes AJT Mar 2017 #1

Same thing in the Northeast - more than $120K per year. George II Mar 2017 #24

The real GOP plan-Each family is a death panel n2doc Mar 2017 #2

I will be my own death panel. redwitch Mar 2017 #58

"nursing homes will start to discharge residents from nursing home to their relatives LoisB Mar 2017 #3

People will die in the gutter like in India. dalton99a Mar 2017 #9

Elderly people will be kept at home, die in accidents at home, or Ilsa Mar 2017 #29

So true! My elderly ex-mother-in-law (MIL) was trying to light cigarettes, but she was actually manicraven Mar 2017 #38

I'm so sorry. Ilsa Mar 2017 #54

And in the future, people without means won't be able to have nursing home care, no manicraven Mar 2017 #56

My 88-yr old grandmother had to enter a nursing home last year because of dementia NickB79 Mar 2017 #75

And no "reporter" ever asks exboyfil Mar 2017 #4

Just wrote about filial responsibility last week rurallib Mar 2017 #51

My wife's late mother was paying about $7000 per month MineralMan Mar 2017 #5

Heartless. Just to funnel more cash to the richest Americans. nt oasis Mar 2017 #6

No, more like $100K. pnwmom Mar 2017 #7

Two words Friend or Foe Mar 2017 #8

This will likely be their solution, food for the poor, and solutions to old age. n/t RKP5637 Mar 2017 #77

Long term care is not covered by health insurance, AFAIK. mahatmakanejeeves Mar 2017 #10

Medicaid pays. DURHAM D Mar 2017 #12

Everyone? Or are there some conditions? Thanks. NT mahatmakanejeeves Mar 2017 #13

it's means tested. mopinko Mar 2017 #15

Everyone who qualifies for Medicaid. DURHAM D Mar 2017 #17

Yes, more likely the state is picking up the bill, and Ilsa Mar 2017 #31

Not true for a married couple where one needs marybourg Mar 2017 #49

You are correct - one spouse gets to isolate their funds DURHAM D Mar 2017 #67

It does. And it often covers seniors and the disabled who have no LuckyLib Mar 2017 #16

That is true. nt DURHAM D Mar 2017 #18

Many are buying long term insurance now. If you can swing it, everyone should. yeoman6987 Mar 2017 #27

But you have to plan far ahead on long term care insurance csziggy Mar 2017 #41

Yes. That's a shame though. Although we have to review auto and life insurance yeoman6987 Mar 2017 #42

We started when we retired TNNurse Mar 2017 #44

Like a DU'er mentioned above, please review it every few years so the cost per day goes up yeoman6987 Mar 2017 #45

We do not have children and feel responsible for ourselves. TNNurse Mar 2017 #47

See Paul Ryan ManSplaining His Plan On CNN? He Left Out Most Stuff RainAndMoreRain Mar 2017 #11

How does the Ryan plan end medicaid? jmg257 Mar 2017 #14

Check out the article at the following link, but basically manicraven Mar 2017 #43

These are the real death panels. colorado_ufo Mar 2017 #19

More like 10k per month for nursing home care DeminPennswoods Mar 2017 #20

But shouldn't a person's savings go to pay for their care? TexasBushwhacker Mar 2017 #52

The patient's money is used up first, currently, and then Medicaid kicks in. dawg Mar 2017 #66

This is my scenario. My mom is in a nursing home with Alzheimers Cal Carpenter Mar 2017 #68

It does, but certain income is exempt DeminPennswoods Mar 2017 #72

I think most children actually want their parents marybourg Mar 2017 #69

In BC for 2017 it's minimum $1104 and maximum of $3240 per month OnlinePoker Mar 2017 #21

IN other states it is a lot lower than that crazycatlady Mar 2017 #61

I'm glad I decided long ago I'd rather commit suicide than be stuck in a nursing home. Vinca Mar 2017 #22

my fear is becoming incapacitated before i can exercise the cabellas solution dembotoz Mar 2017 #33

My fear also get the red out Mar 2017 #35

Maybe Ryan will give us vouchers, Mendocino Mar 2017 #62

We paid roughly $120,000* for my mother and my father-in-law about 10 years ago. We would have..... George II Mar 2017 #23

My 90 year old uncle started out paying $5K/month for assisted living mnhtnbb Mar 2017 #25

This is the saddest part of the whole scam jmowreader Mar 2017 #28

I don't think it's sad. mnhtnbb Mar 2017 #32

THANK YOU! get the red out Mar 2017 #37

+1 BannonsLiver Mar 2017 #40

Watching the deterioration is awful DeminPennswoods Mar 2017 #48

Many who work in healthcare TNNurse Mar 2017 #46

You are absolutely right. My dad had a health care directive mnhtnbb Mar 2017 #60

I got the call TNNurse Mar 2017 #71

I have always thought that he waited to stop eating until we went out of town mnhtnbb Mar 2017 #74

I watched family finally leave the bedside from exhaustion TNNurse Mar 2017 #79

My husband's father did that. Actually told his wife to go home because he needed mnhtnbb Mar 2017 #83

the question not to be morbid but i guess it is..... dembotoz Mar 2017 #34

My husband is an MD mnhtnbb Mar 2017 #64

I like your plan! I've been giving a lot of thought as I'm aging to how I want to go out... manicraven Mar 2017 #50

Yeah, but what if you have dementia or Alzheimer's? n2doc Mar 2017 #59

Well, then you have to step up to the Robin Williams' plan mnhtnbb Mar 2017 #63

my mom fell in January MFM008 Mar 2017 #26

Yes, she can stay in rehab for 100 days but Medicare only fully covers the first 20. On the 21st Trust Buster Mar 2017 #81

Yes MFM008 Mar 2017 #84

So many will die Kimchijeon Mar 2017 #30

Yes, lots of people don't have kids or anybody they can turn to. It's really very sad. manicraven Mar 2017 #53

The Guberment has no money for these old,non tax paying drains,BUT we have plenty for... Bengus81 Mar 2017 #36

ayn randism must be destroyed. pansypoo53219 Mar 2017 #39

Took care of several relatives in my life Marthe48 Mar 2017 #55

Thank you for this very moving story. marybourg Mar 2017 #70

Thank you Marthe48 Mar 2017 #80

The nursing homes, hospitals, medical staffs, pharmaceutical companies, democratisphere Mar 2017 #57

On the plus side, combining estates and households Hortensis Mar 2017 #65

You mean like Paul Ryan who ditched his mother TexasBushwhacker Mar 2017 #78

Oh, I didn't hear about that. I've suspected he's Hortensis Mar 2017 #82

That's because JMCoast Mar 2017 #73

The Trump Care Plan is to kill off those unable to pay. It's another pile of steaming Trump! n/t RKP5637 Mar 2017 #76