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Hekate

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12. Mercy to the guilty is cruelty to the innocent. What he took was expensive, & he'll go on doing it

Reply to Docreed2003 (Original post)

Fri Mar 10, 2017, 02:33 AM

Mar 2017

You are fortunate enough to be able to write it off, but others before and after you have likely been very hurt both financially and emotionally.

Your wife, for instance, is as you say a nervous wreck. Deep down inside she wonders if she could have been assaulted, or if he took a key to the house and will be back to steal more or to hurt the family. It is not a minor event.

This man breached the most basic sense of security as humans -- the home. You have it in your means to stop him from harming other people, people more vulnerable than you. I don't know why you are severely torn. Make the court date and do what you can to put him out of circulation for awhile.

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A breach of trust (in our home)...(Update) [View all] Docreed2003 Mar 2017 OP

It's fine for you to be a bleeding heart HERE, doc. elleng Mar 2017 #1

Thanks Ellen... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #7

Hoo boy... sprinkleeninow Mar 2017 #2

Thank you!! Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #8

You sound like a responsible citizen doing the right thing to me. erinlough Mar 2017 #3

Thank you...truly appreciate it! Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #9

Bottom line: Blue_Roses Mar 2017 #4

Thanks Blue Roses Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #10

It's hard to make sense out of things Blue_Roses Mar 2017 #18

Your point bears repeating... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #20

Of course this is just my opinion but Doreen Mar 2017 #5

Thank you... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #14

Yeah, it does sound like an addiction. Doreen Mar 2017 #23

Damn doc.... Glamrock Mar 2017 #6

Thanks man... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #13

Yeah, I'm with them. Glamrock Mar 2017 #15

Thanks..appreciate that man Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #17

Go to court sarah FAILIN Mar 2017 #11

Mercy to the guilty is cruelty to the innocent. What he took was expensive, & he'll go on doing it Hekate Mar 2017 #12

Thank you Hekate... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #16

My blushes. Many thanks. And enjoy your new home in peace and harmony henceforth. Hekate Mar 2017 #19

One way to think about the right thing to do is to consider the outcome if everyone mahina Mar 2017 #27

Excellent points! This happened to my husband's elderly mother anneboleyn Mar 2017 #65

Flip side MedusaX Mar 2017 #21

TY... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #22

I guess I do not consider what he did to be "minor" Skittles Mar 2017 #24

Thanks Skittles... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #31

did he even have permission to be in your daughter's room? Skittles Mar 2017 #50

Here's the thing- there's you guys feeling violated and your trust broken, which is more than legit. Warren DeMontague Mar 2017 #25

My parents fell victim MFM008 Mar 2017 #26

My husband's elderly mother (in my post). You are so right that they victimize others -- and it anneboleyn Mar 2017 #68

I've been there--where your wife is--because my husband is a doc mnhtnbb Mar 2017 #28

If you were married to a physician, you are a Saint... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #32

Dude....I'm gonna give you my perspective. You aren't going to like it. msanthrope Mar 2017 #29

Nah...I appreciate your insight Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #33

You aren't responsible for his demons....and I commend you for following through on this. nt msanthrope Mar 2017 #34

I agree with you. Didn't think of the underwear, tho.Creepy but good idea. EOM elfin Mar 2017 #54

What if your wife had finished her phone call and walked back upstairs unexpectedly, Tanuki Mar 2017 #30

Agreed... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #35

Not to freak you out any further, but here is a picture of the author Sebastian Junger Tanuki Mar 2017 #36

EXACTLY!! He may be very capable of violence, and if nobody reports him people will anneboleyn Mar 2017 #66

I know you're going to court Corgigal Mar 2017 #37

Corgigal I think you are totally right (my post is about an elderly parent who was victimized) anneboleyn Mar 2017 #67

Will the D.A. call you to testify if the case goes to trial? KingCharlemagne Mar 2017 #38

Go to court - crooks that get away with stuff just keep stealing csziggy Mar 2017 #39

Wow...heartbreaking story. Thank you for sharing! Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #41

Your story reminds me of the Columbine murderers. Something very similar happened with that anneboleyn Mar 2017 #69

you may have mercuryblues Mar 2017 #40

You don't want your bleeding heart to result in the guy getting off and preying on other people. Vinca Mar 2017 #42

Cool story, bro SecularMotion Mar 2017 #43

So i lost you after reading the entire post? Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #44

I admit, you had me fooled for a while SecularMotion Mar 2017 #45

No, I think YOU are trying to bash one. n/t pnwmom Mar 2017 #47

In no way was I in this post or have I ever "bashed liberals" her or IRL Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #55

You may or may not be aware of this SecularMotion Mar 2017 #61

Unless you are declaring that poster a right wing troll, I'd say an apology is in order. Marengo Mar 2017 #63

I understand fully that the right has used that term in a derogatory fashion... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #64

Are you suggesting that poster is a right wing troll? Marengo Mar 2017 #62

What will you say to the next victims of this guy? lunatica Mar 2017 #46

We had a similar situation Ms. Toad Mar 2017 #48

No, you're not being too much of a bleeding heart. haele Mar 2017 #49

I'm of mixed mind on this, doc True Dough Mar 2017 #51

No, you're absolutely right, it wasn't the easily replaced stuff, it was the breach of trust Warpy Mar 2017 #52

Years ago we had a break in. phylny Mar 2017 #53

This is not one impulsive lapse of judgement. If you and your spouse feel up to it, delisen Mar 2017 #56

I would change it. Blue_true Mar 2017 #57

Good point. If your local paper quotes you as saying you would have gladly given him money, Tanuki Mar 2017 #58

Excellent point... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #60

I'm so sorry this happened to you. From my own Ilsa Mar 2017 #59

Lighten up... Bob Geiger Mar 2017 #70

Lmao... Docreed2003 Mar 2017 #72

That he was well known to your local LE says a ton Lee-Lee Mar 2017 #71

If you have a summons to go treestar Mar 2017 #73

Turning him in is the right thing to do. Unless stopped he'll continue to steal from others and FSogol Mar 2017 #74