A breach of trust (in our home)...(Update)

[Warren DeMontague]

25. Here's the thing- there's you guys feeling violated and your trust broken, which is more than legit.

But to my mind there's not much point in wasting time trying to get inside his head, or "how could he do this to us, how could he betray our trust"-- if this was a one-off, an outlier, okay, maybe. But this is a running gig for this dude. It sounds like you're victim # whatever- one in a long series.

There's a line in the extremely disturbing Todd Solondz movie "Happiness" that always cracks my wife up- "what were you in Russia?" "I was thief"

thieving, stealing, ripping people off; whatever, it is a line of "work" this dude has chosen to pursue, so as one of countless victims, it's not personal or about you. Or, at least, there's no point for you, in viewing it that way. Why feel bad? This is what this guy does, apparently.

Best thing you can do "for" a career criminal like that is motivate them to find another line of work, by pressing charges. If nothing else you're helping out any future victims the dude might be inclined to take advantage of.