General Discussion

Vanje

(9,766 posts)

74. "The child victims often become offenders."

Sat Jun 30, 2012, 12:03 AM

Jun 2012

REally"?
Often? How often?
EXACTLY how often?
What percentage of the 1 in 4 girls who get abused, .....(Yeah. Its about 1/4 of all the female children in USA.) Exactly What percentage of abused children go on to be abusers?

Percentage is a fraction. I'd like a number. Not some words you pull out your butt.

I was an abused child. As a result. How many children have I abused?

I'm a survivor who has not been felled by substance abuse or suicide. Child abuse survivors die of substance abuse, and suicide at significantly higher rates than population as a whole.
Is that a good thing for society?

I'm still here.
Whats the percentage of risk that I will molest your kids? Do you hide your children away when I come into your home?

Should we wear ankle bracelets? Should we be required to register as potential offenders? Branded? Tatooed?
Should we be barred from being teachers? Sport coaches? Scout leaders?

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

85 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

Do you think it's possible that Sandusky's wife didn't know? [View all] LynneSin Jun 2012 OP

I have met people who were so evil it destroys you to have to exist on the same planet as them applegrove Jun 2012 #1

I think she didn't WANT to know Horse with no Name Jun 2012 #2

I agree with you. That level of denial takes a lot of energy, Raksha Jun 2012 #54

Sandusky's wife is a coconspirator of these heinous crimes committed against children! Artemis Rose Jun 2012 #59

Agree with your premise. blue neen Jun 2012 #72

I agree. truebrit71 Jun 2012 #61

She may have justified the molestation....because the boys were disadvantaged. Vanje Jun 2012 #63

Absolutely not proud2BlibKansan Jun 2012 #3

Yep, I think that also Ishoutandscream2 Jun 2012 #45

When I was a kid, a prominent man in our community got caught 'playing' with young boys proud2BlibKansan Jun 2012 #47

Did he go to jail? Vanje Jun 2012 #64

He killed himself. proud2BlibKansan Jun 2012 #67

No way in hell, I think. TheWraith Jun 2012 #4

At best she was in denial. davsand Jun 2012 #5

At the very least, she did not want to know... cynatnite Jun 2012 #6

What? NeverEnuff Jun 2012 #7

That was another coach and school RainDog Jun 2012 #16

I have a hard time Aerows Jun 2012 #8

"We Paid for you!" A fifty dollar dinner! An airplane ticket! Vanje Jun 2012 #65

Sadly Aerows Jun 2012 #68

She had to know. yellerpup Jun 2012 #9

The way he was so into sandyshoes17 Jun 2012 #10

I think it's possible, but unlikely fishwax Jun 2012 #11

I would be very surprised to learn that she wasn't sodomized by him, and that would to me be hard teddy51 Jun 2012 #12

She knew...in my opinion. FarPoint Jun 2012 #13

There is also the letter where he compares his relationship with a victim FedUpWithIt All Jun 2012 #24

I see your point.... FarPoint Jun 2012 #39

I don't think we can be sure that he was molested by anyone or even by his dad. FedUpWithIt All Jun 2012 #41

From what I see in the bio LiberalEsto Jun 2012 #51

Agreed... FarPoint Jun 2012 #55

No Vanje Jun 2012 #66

Vanje, no one thinks that of you Aerows Jun 2012 #69

Oh yes it does get passed on in a sense. FarPoint Jun 2012 #70

People have choices. blue neen Jun 2012 #71

"The child victims often become offenders." Vanje Jun 2012 #74

And oh. Vanje Jun 2012 #75

I'm sorry for your pain. FarPoint Jun 2012 #85

Chill out.... FarPoint Jun 2012 #78

I just dont think you know what you're talking about Vanje Jun 2012 #80

Then educate yourself. FarPoint Jun 2012 #81

I am going to respectfully ask you... blue neen Jun 2012 #82

Stop what? FarPoint Jun 2012 #84

Hell no. Sienna86 Jun 2012 #14

Yep, and it happens all to often! Maybe in some ways you can't blame her for that, unless either teddy51 Jun 2012 #18

Probably Sgent Jun 2012 #15

No, she knew. bermudat Jun 2012 #17

Yes, I think it's possible - but I don't know one way or the other RainDog Jun 2012 #19

Because it came up in 1998 Politicalboi Jun 2012 #20

I think it's possible she didn't know. But who really knows if she did. Lots of wives are naive... Honeycombe8 Jun 2012 #21

No. I think it in inconceivable she didn't know Stinky The Clown Jun 2012 #22

She will spend the rest of her life EmeraldCityGrl Jun 2012 #23

Nah. She'll wonder why they did this to her. aquart Jun 2012 #28

I think she didn't know abelenkpe Jun 2012 #25

I think she knew. nt cwydro Jun 2012 #26

She will probably move to Florida and leave her past behind. FarPoint Jun 2012 #56

Either they had a terrible marriage or she must have known something was wrong XemaSab Jun 2012 #27

People like her ( my own mother was one too) are too concerned with : SoCalDem Jun 2012 #29

She was married to a republican, B Calm Jun 2012 #30

Please stop with the politics. Are_grits_groceries Jun 2012 #31

This is a political board! B Calm Jun 2012 #33

Even so. Are_grits_groceries Jun 2012 #35

Maybe not, but Sandusky B Calm Jun 2012 #36

Then write a LTTE! Are_grits_groceries Jun 2012 #37

. B Calm Jun 2012 #38

It's possible she doesn't consciously know, eShirl Jun 2012 #32

Yes and no. Are_grits_groceries Jun 2012 #34

They adopted children.... FarPoint Jun 2012 #40

Good points. JohnnyLib2 Jun 2012 #43

She knew. I'm sure there was some denial going on, but she knew. AngryOldDem Jun 2012 #42

Never underestimate the power of denial. undeterred Jun 2012 #44

personally, i do not believe it. but, everyones marriage is different seabeyond Jun 2012 #46

I think she convinced herself she didn't know TorchTheWitch Jun 2012 #48

Denial slackmaster Jun 2012 #49

Denial is a powerful tool etherealtruth Jun 2012 #50

Of course it is possible. Z_I_Peevey Jun 2012 #52

great post. thanks! n/t RainDog Jun 2012 #53

No, but only if you mean she chose not to know... joeybee12 Jun 2012 #57

I believe that she knew about it Broken_Hero Jun 2012 #58

In a word shanti Jun 2012 #60

She may not have known the extent and timeframe until the accusations, but there is no way TwilightGardener Jun 2012 #62

I think she chose not to see ibegurpard Jun 2012 #73

i think she had to know barbtries Jun 2012 #76

Here, another wife of a pedophile explains how it is possible not to know. pnwmom Jun 2012 #77

I think it's possible she didn't know. HappyMe Jun 2012 #79

I have seen wives look the other way in the face of distasteful things to maintain their lifestyle Sen. Walter Sobchak Jun 2012 #83