Rachel is talking about BOTS drowning pro Hillary stuff

[nolabear]

25. That's a very good question and worth pursuing.

If I was doing couples counseling I'd say have a discussion in which you only talk about what you're thinking and feeling for quite some time and not what anyone else says or does. And if something troubles you about what the person you're talking to says let them know that and ask for clarification. Then if you still are upset by it let them know why and the two of you try to figure out how much you each need to hang on to the original thoughts or feelings and how much you can compromise. And there are layers and layers of that within any discussion.

My least favorite comment on DU is the "and there are many on DU who do that too" comment when bringing in others to drag up old fights stops the conversation in its tracks and turns into a rehash of old wounds.