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In reply to the discussion: The Myth of Male Power - Warren Farrell [View all]Dokkie
(1,688 posts)I had a very good friend once, she was a struggling single mom, I was a student in college, we lived in the same apartment complex and we were so close that we had keys to each others apartments, we knew each other secrets, who we have had sex with and stuff like that (was 20ish at the time). So one day she was looking for a baby sitter for her 4yr daughter, she called just about everybody she knew who could baby sit her daughter and none of em was available. She was really stressing out because she needed to be at work.
So I saw her panicking and I asked what the problem was, she told me the story how she was looking for a babysitter and could not find one, so like the good friend I was, I offered to babysit the daughter and what she replied with still haunts me today. She said "I will not be able to live with my self if someone bad happened to my daughter", I told her, that I knew exactly what to do and where everything was and I was going to take good care of her. She then said, its about her physical safety and stopped at that.
She did not come out and say it but I got the message loud and clear, she saw me as a pedophile who was going to take advantage of her daughter the moment I had my alone time with her. This is a girl that I had confined my deepest secrets to, a girl who I helped financially when she was broke. After that conversation, we never spoke to each other and till today I dont know how what ended up happening that night.