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hunter

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41. The 10% are somehow convinced it's their own fault.

Thu May 18, 2017, 03:05 PM

May 2017

I'm a male but it seems similar to the bullying I suffered as a kid. There were always a few adults in positions of authority who would try to convince me it was my fault whenever some bully beat me bloody. All I had to do was "be a man" or something.

As a skinny, squeaky, highly reactive kid, that wasn't in the cards. The best I could manage was some sort of invisibility.

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Nearly 90 per cent of young women in US have experienced sexual harassment, report finds [View all] niyad May 2017 OP

Wish they presented data zipplewrath May 2017 #1

I corrected the link for the article. it might answer your qustions. niyad May 2017 #2

90 % is very large zipplewrath May 2017 #19

Not large at all. And you're forgetting that grown men are among the harassers pnwmom May 2017 #28

I meant as compared to comparable studies zipplewrath May 2017 #30

This study, if you read it, clearly included harassment that doesn't include assault. pnwmom May 2017 #32

Don't they have daughters? zipplewrath May 2017 #37

If they did they lacked empathy. I was tall, so they probably thought I was older, pnwmom May 2017 #38

They did present data. I'm not sure what you're saying, exactly. n/t pnwmom May 2017 #4

Might be of interest. I'm not promoting the veracity of the claims. NCTraveler May 2017 #5

Thanks for posting that link oberliner May 2017 #3

The photo is an example of sexual harassment. You couldn't tell that? n/t pnwmom May 2017 #6

It's an odd stock photo oberliner May 2017 #7

There are MANY ways to sexually harass, and inappropriate physical contact is a common way. pnwmom May 2017 #9

Yes, indeed oberliner May 2017 #15

Can you post a pic of relationship coercion between students? Orrex May 2017 #18

Here's the photo Newsweek used for their story on this report oberliner May 2017 #20

The article writer chose his or her own focus. But if you think middle and high school students pnwmom May 2017 #24

Fair enough oberliner May 2017 #27

Violently zipplewrath May 2017 #36

I think you are again, confusing "infer" and "imply." LanternWaste May 2017 #14

I thought imply was to suggest and infer was to conclude oberliner May 2017 #17

You are correct Orrex May 2017 #23

Oh ok oberliner May 2017 #25

I haven't found it yet nor, honestly, searched too thoroughly Orrex May 2017 #29

Fair enough oberliner May 2017 #31

People who think the contact in the photo isn't "serious" in a work situation are wrong. pnwmom May 2017 #33

Office sexual harassment is very serious oberliner May 2017 #35

This is utterly believable, and it starts as soon as a girl hits adolescence. pnwmom May 2017 #8

I am grateful that I am far past that age. it was bad enough when I was young, but getting niyad May 2017 #10

K&R. And when women try to talk about it, they often aren't belived. WhiskeyGrinder May 2017 #11

welcome to du. and, sadly, you are absolutely correct. niyad May 2017 #12

Roger Ailes may be gone, but his legacy lives on and on gratuitous May 2017 #13

sadly, you are quite correct. niyad May 2017 #21

How the hell is it only 90 percent? Orrex May 2017 #16

that was my first thought. niyad May 2017 #22

As a man, I of course have the authority to speak on behalf of all women... Orrex May 2017 #26

Thank you, Orrex. I have never met a woman who couldn't cite examples, starting very young. n/t pnwmom May 2017 #34

I'm more amazed by it almost daily even now. Orrex May 2017 #39

I remember telling a friend that it starts at 11 or 12 pnwmom May 2017 #40

The 10% are somehow convinced it's their own fault. hunter May 2017 #41