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cwydro

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18. My mother swore that we should kill her before ever letting that happen to her.

Sat May 27, 2017, 09:12 PM

May 2017

She died at home, which is what she wanted.

Good luck with this. Be very VERY vigilant.

Unfortunately, I know too many bad stories about all of these places. I wish you luck.

Ice cream is really not the most important thing to worry about, sadly, though perhaps it should be.

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Mom is very happy at her nursing home -- so it is possible. [View all] pnwmom May 2017 OP

can you set up a security cam in her room?.... samnsara May 2017 #1

Very good to know. Thanks for posting. nt kstewart33 May 2017 #2

I think we probably could. But Mom is still quite capable of complaining pnwmom May 2017 #4

you can also speak thru them.... samnsara May 2017 #3

My Mom moved into assisited living little less than a year ago. Archae May 2017 #5

It can work great for some! JNelson6563 May 2017 #6

Count your blessings Freddie May 2017 #7

Oh, believe me, I do. pnwmom May 2017 #16

Wow that sounds nice! What state are in? Dem_4_Life May 2017 #8

She left Texas. She'd had two broken hips there (at two different times) pnwmom May 2017 #10

She's so lucky to have such great kids. Dem_4_Life May 2017 #29

My grandmother did very well in assisted living. Akoto May 2017 #9

So did my mother in law. pnwmom May 2017 #12

Glad that's working out for her. Binkie The Clown May 2017 #11

Theoretically, Mom didn't like the idea, either. But it turns out pnwmom May 2017 #14

Thanks for the link. n/t Binkie The Clown May 2017 #20

The people who get the best care in nursing homes are the ones whose family visits very very often luvMIdog May 2017 #13

And also the ones with excellent caregiver/elder ratios. n/t pnwmom May 2017 #15

True CountAllVotes May 2017 #44

yes & I would also like to ask them to prove to me they run background checks on staff luvMIdog May 2017 #17

My mother swore that we should kill her before ever letting that happen to her. cwydro May 2017 #18

Ice cream in her mind stands for independence and individuality. pnwmom May 2017 #21

My Grandma loved her nursing home. justgamma May 2017 #19

Aww is that where your username came from. Dem_4_Life May 2017 #32

My Mother is in a graduated assisted living community. Many of the programs annabanana May 2017 #22

None in New Mexico left-of-center2012 May 2017 #23

Mom gets about the same amount you do from Social Security and it's not too much pnwmom May 2017 #26

I only know ... left-of-center2012 May 2017 #40

Here are the 2017 rules. People who have no more than $2,000 in assets pnwmom May 2017 #41

Well, I have little in assets as I'm on Section 8 and little in the bank left-of-center2012 May 2017 #42

Even married couples can qualify, but as you can see, the spouse pnwmom May 2017 #43

you can switch to Medicaid if you are in a nursing home for 90 straight days and your money runs out Backwoodsrider May 2017 #28

I meant "blessed" in a good way left-of-center2012 May 2017 #39

In NM, there is an assisted living in Los Lunas that is really nice - greenhouses, restaurant, spa womanofthehills May 2017 #37

It's pretty rare to find a non profit nursing home usually blueinredohio May 2017 #24

I've spent a lot of time living in a hospital setting over the last couple of years Victor_c3 May 2017 #25

good to hear you point of view Victor Backwoodsrider May 2017 #31

What the Repukes don't understand, or really, don't care about, is that Medicaid & such programs UTUSN May 2017 #27

That's true. It's lunacy to cut Meals on Wheels, for example. pnwmom May 2017 #30

Nice to see that, it's a hit or miss prospect whether someone will be happy or miserable.... George II May 2017 #33

Thanks, George II. pnwmom May 2017 #34

My mom also found a beau in senior living & he helped her escape from a nursing home womanofthehills May 2017 #38

Thank you for posting this, and thank you to everyone who has replied. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2017 #35

Thank you! I was surprised at all the attention this post got. pnwmom May 2017 #36

My family is going through this, trying to make some decisions babylonsister May 2017 #45

I'd encourage you to also look at nursing homes, because he's probably pnwmom May 2017 #46

Thank you! babylonsister May 2017 #47

Thanks for bringing this Arazi May 2017 #48