if after Phillando Castille shooting, you as a democrat say ALL LIVES MATTER

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55. Anyone who says "all lives matter" really isn't LISTENING.

Of course all lives matter, that's an everyday given. But it's not the point here. If a BLM individual is told by John Doe that "All lives matter," then John Doe hasn't really been listening.

Anyone who's ever had relationship counseling to improve communication learns that they MUST listen to their aggrieved spouse/partner, even if the subject matter being discussed is difficult. You listen attentively, do not interrupt, you do not counter when the other person is having their say. But with each exchange, when appropriate, you must acknowledge that you have heard every word, and avoid shifting into an unnecessary and counterproductive defensive mode.

This same type of "I hear what you're saying, and you make several excellent points" genuine listening should apply to exchanges with the BLM folks as well.