Why Fat-Shaming Is Wrong.

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34. I lost 85 pounds almost ten years ago and have not regained them.

It wasn't hard, and it was fast. I didn't diet or exercise; I ate the things I liked but not in excess. The key for me was mental or psychological--I got to the place in my head where I was able to do this. I'm convinced I could help anyone lose weight if I had total control over what they ate, but that's not going to do them any good. There are lots of ways to drop pounds fast, but extreme diets--hell, *diets* in general--are impossible to sustain over the long term.

My approach was to go exactly opposite diets. Instead of starting out with lists of what I could and could not eat, I started with a list of what I liked best for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Snacks are for toddlers and insulin-dependent diabetics. I like cereal with fruit and a cup of coffee for breakfast, so I checked the label on my favorite cereal to find out what a "serving" was, and that's how much I put in my bowl every day. I also like to add a couple of tablespoons of slivered almonds to my cereal, and I do not measure the fruit (strawberries, blueberries, raspberries and blackberries), just fill up the bowl. One-percent milk to cover and black coffee.

My lunch and dinner are along the same lines--start with what I like to eat, find out what a normal serving is, and eat it.

But that's by the bye.

I think fat shaming is when you discriminate against a fat person by word or deed. It's not my business why they are fat, how fat they are, whether they're trying to lose weight or not, and I truly don't care.

Making fun of Donald Trump's fat is not something I'm uncomfortable with. If he were glob forbid in the same room as me I as a polite person of course would not make fun of his fat, or his hair, or his long tie. But he is a public figure, "the most powerful man in the world," and he has a history of blatant fat-shaming of the women around him. I do not see anything wrong with giving a hypocrite a dose of his own medicine--in a public manner. If someone were to harangue him privately about his weight, I think that would be fat-shaming.