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Laffy Kat

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10. It's difficult.

Mon Jul 3, 2017, 11:58 PM

Jul 2017

I have a close girlfriend who is now dating a Trumpster. She was a pagan the entire time I knew her but is now going to a "Christian" church that is against marriage equality (I have a bi-sexual son who is dating a transitioning young man). She says she doesn't agree with her BF on many issues, but I still feel betrayed by her. I have all but cut her out of my life. I told her I could never have her BF in my house, but now I'm feeling the same about her. It's so painful.

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Just found out my relatives voted for Trump [View all] fallout87 Jul 2017 OP

Don't engage in politics..... physioex Jul 2017 #1

Thanks for the replies fallout87 Jul 2017 #12

Enjoy the 4th.... physioex Jul 2017 #18

"I won't engage them unless I can point them in the right direction without being confrontational." politicaljunkie41910 Jul 2017 #84

Hey fallout87. How's it going? Missn-Hitch May 2021 #89

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++ still_one Jul 2017 #83

You don't have to dramatically cut them off Chasstev365 Jul 2017 #2

my brother and his wife, my younger daughter's husband and parents NRaleighLiberal Jul 2017 #3

Say and do nothing, ignore it. elleng Jul 2017 #4

Take them out of your will too. Throck Jul 2017 #5

I have family that I'm sure Hieronymus Jul 2017 #6

Correct... physioex Jul 2017 #7

Cut them off completely. Foamfollower Jul 2017 #8

That is not practical (and this is very poor advice)! physioex Jul 2017 #13

I cut off every family member who voted for Trump completely Foamfollower Jul 2017 #16

I'm with you AmandaRuth Jul 2017 #29

Anyone who voted for Trump - I let them know they made a big mistake. No getting off the hook, kerry-is-my-prez Jul 2017 #73

Bullshit! - nt KingCharlemagne Jul 2017 #52

Be nice enid602 Jul 2017 #78

What is wrong with you? Baconator Jul 2017 #14

Giving them the same advice I took Foamfollower Jul 2017 #17

That's just petty... Baconator Jul 2017 #22

Life is too short to waste any of it on morons. Foamfollower Jul 2017 #23

It sounds incredibly tedious and homogenous... Baconator Jul 2017 #25

You live life how you want to and I'll live mine how I want to. Foamfollower Jul 2017 #30

I totally respect your response. LOL Lib Jul 2017 #38

I cut off close friends of over 3 decades over Trump Foamfollower Jul 2017 #39

+Infinity. I dumped a romantic interest of long stabding for exactly the same, bur nir before KingCharlemagne Jul 2017 #67

Different? MLAA Jul 2017 #36

Different? NCTraveler Jul 2017 #60

I need more before I refuse to associate with someone... Baconator Jul 2017 #61

"I need more before I refuse to associate with someone..." NCTraveler Jul 2017 #63

Different is fine. Dangerous is not; and they are dangerous. n/t jrthin Jul 2017 #79

You are just fine consorting with racists and sexists, I take it? - nt KingCharlemagne Jul 2017 #54

Absolutely... Baconator Jul 2017 #58

Why, I bet you would have been right at home in the antebellum South or KingCharlemagne Jul 2017 #66

How's the whole circle jerk purity thing working so far? Baconator Jul 2017 #87

Sorry you're being attacked. Life isn't black and white. femmedem Jul 2017 #77

Really uncool response AmandaRuth Jul 2017 #34

I think it depends on whether they still defend him. Ilsa Jul 2017 #9

It's difficult. Laffy Kat Jul 2017 #10

If she doesn't agree with her BF... 3catwoman3 Jul 2017 #24

I keep thinking that but it's been a while now. Laffy Kat Jul 2017 #26

A close friend of mine changed drastically after she connected with her fundy bf, CrispyQ Jul 2017 #48

Thanks! Laffy Kat Jul 2017 #51

I lost a good friend like that because she got involved with this strange evangelical kimbutgar Jul 2017 #56

Yep. I think it's just something we have to accept and move through it. nt Laffy Kat Jul 2017 #75

Her BF would have no problem whatsoever seeing you forcibly interned or KingCharlemagne Jul 2017 #69

I do realize that and her decision has shocked me. Laffy Kat Jul 2017 #74

Family is family BainsBane Jul 2017 #11

Just wait long enough and they'll change their minds lunatica Jul 2017 #15

So they got fooled. So did a lot of people. Warpy Jul 2017 #19

make fun of them for supporting Trump JI7 Jul 2017 #20

My entire family... Books_Tea_Alone Jul 2017 #21

Speaking to a grief coubsellor may help. I found my counsellir really helped me KingCharlemagne Jul 2017 #71

Thank you for suggesting this. Kimchijeon Jul 2017 #82

I wrote a great post WhiteTara Jul 2017 #27

I am lucky. My family and I pretty much agree on politics. lovemydogs Jul 2017 #28

Here's how I'm dealing with it.... MLAA Jul 2017 #31

You should make this an OP - nt KingCharlemagne Jul 2017 #72

The economy and jobs ? ok sure. n/t jaysunb Jul 2017 #32

Personally, I am sick of people telling me AmandaRuth Jul 2017 #33

Right on! n/t MLAA Jul 2017 #37

Cut them off. You don't owe them anything. Aristus Jul 2017 #35

Yup, time to expunge racists from their lives... yes, even if they're family. InAbLuEsTaTe Jul 2017 #40

You can't fix stupid... Jack-o-Lantern Jul 2017 #41

I have a cousin like that. DFW Jul 2017 #42

I usually don't debate politics with my Republican relatives. Willie Pep Jul 2017 #43

Ugh .yuck my sympathy. I can't imagine Trump fixing much . Maybe I'm wrong lunasun Jul 2017 #44

Since you didn't engage them about politics before Phoenix61 Jul 2017 #45

In the very beginning I was excited about facebook because I could get in contact with relatives. airplaneman Jul 2017 #46

"If you have a thousand friends on Facebook, how many friends do you really have?" CrispyQ Jul 2017 #59

I feel your pain. CrispyQ Jul 2017 #47

Understand that this is EXACTLY what the Russians were doing Nevernose Jul 2017 #49

I think you're suppose hit them on the nose with a rolled up newspaper NobodyHere Jul 2017 #50

Wow I feel for you mvd Jul 2017 #53

Something tells me they won't mind, then hold a grudge forever. ileus Jul 2017 #55

They are not human beings, they are malignancies. AngryAmish Jul 2017 #57

That.... Baconator Jul 2017 #62

Business as normal just do not talk politics GulfCoast66 Jul 2017 #64

Accept their opinion, pick your battles, and always respect their opinion MiddleClass Jul 2017 #65

I would see them as little as possible treestar Jul 2017 #68

If they start shit, hand them a printout of a Russian flag and call them a traitor to even Reagan. TheBlackAdder Jul 2017 #70

I don't speak to any Trumpster if I can avoid it The Polack MSgt Jul 2017 #76

Seriously? The answer is to avoid discussing politics at all with relatives. Lil Missy Jul 2017 #80

Don't talk politics. Tell them to stop Fox and Limbaugh sharedvalues Jul 2017 #81

So did mine I'm sure but Raine Jul 2017 #85

I don't respect anyone who voted for Trump and Duppers Jul 2017 #86

I say bullshit that their focus mercuryblues Jul 2017 #88