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RhodeIslandOne

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66. Those are things people say to make themselves feel better

Thu Jul 20, 2017, 06:20 PM

Jul 2017

The way people talk about cancer is so odd.

Cancer isn't a single entity or object or a sentient being. It's just a mutation of our own body's cells into something unhealthy and causing illness. Sometimes it simply can't be prevented or stopped, especially anything deep inside the intestine, pancreatic, etc. I find the way people go about addressing it like it's an animal or an escaped killer or a terrorist to be so weird. And yes, I've had numerous relatives die from it. Some fast, some slow. I've also had family die of massive strokes, but I rarely hear anyone say "Fuck strokes" or whatever like they do with cancer.

Don't mean to offend anyone, I just find the whole thing strange.

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On cancer and "toughness" [View all] Danmel Jul 2017 OP

Being less vile than many in the gop is indeed a low bar dembotoz Jul 2017 #1

hmmmm well rtracey Jul 2017 #19

Exactly. The hell and sufferring this man has pangaia Jul 2017 #22

This disease will kill him. It kills everyone. sharedvalues Jul 2017 #2

NO, it doesn't. MORE & MORE patients ARE recovering The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #6

You don't know what you're talking about with respect to this cancer. n/t Raven Jul 2017 #11

Recommended tallahasseedem Jul 2017 #40

I AM an American woman who was diagnosed with STAGE 4B metastatic The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #45

I'm sure you know what works for you, and your struggle with Cervical Cancer maxsolomon Jul 2017 #47

I'm so sorry for your loss... tallahasseedem Jul 2017 #49

First all, I've been a member of Du since 2004 but lost my password to my original screenname.. The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #50

You could have acquired a new password any time you wanted. maxsolomon Jul 2017 #73

NOT that it's any of your business BUT the reason I couldn't get a new password The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #74

Different cancer. Different area affected. I do not, however, doubt your experience at all. WinkyDink Jul 2017 #64

Yes, WinkyDink BUT as I just posted to another DU'er, I treated @ a FAMOUS The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #67

CTCA is for-profit. sharedvalues Jul 2017 #72

Yeah, NO KIDDING! At the time I went, they weren't as grubby & sleazy The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #76

WTF? i WAS DIAGNOSED WITH STAGE 4B SQUAMOUS CELL CARCINOMA, IDIOT! The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #44

Please don't spam posts with videos. tallahasseedem Jul 2017 #51

It isn't spam, Tallahassee but proof of what I was saying as I was The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #52

Thank you for all of these... CanSocDem Jul 2017 #60

Yes, I know that it's brainwashing that people accept without question... The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #62

It depends on the patient! atreides1 Jul 2017 #28

Atreides, Please allow me to respectfully disagree as I have seen with MY OWN The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #65

Let me be brief. janx Jul 2017 #59

Thank you, Janx. However, I was only making an observation that Sen. McCain The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #61

I agree. DanTex Jul 2017 #3

Thank you. My cancer has come back 3 times over 5 years. ReformedGOPer Jul 2017 #26

I'm Going To Agree RobinA Jul 2017 #4

I never "battled" cancer, and I hate that term. Tracer Jul 2017 #18

I would argue that is fighting it mythology Jul 2017 #31

I hate that so much! And it is everywhere. Chemisse Jul 2017 #53

My concern for McCain as a fellow child of God overrides at the moment my contempt for his positions DemocratSinceBirth Jul 2017 #5

God bless you, DemocratSinceBirth...That's they way we're The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #8

There's a time for everything and now is not the time to lambaste McCain. DemocratSinceBirth Jul 2017 #10

My thoughts exactly! Docreed2003 Jul 2017 #12

I agree. When we forget that is when we actually become "them". hamsterjill Jul 2017 #33

I just posted this. DemocratSinceBirth Jul 2017 #34

+1 Great post, DSB lunamagica Jul 2017 #56

Cancer is a cell mutation. Mutations don't care how "tough" somebody is. MoonRiver Jul 2017 #7

Plus blaming the patient for lifestyle 'choices' that led to their cancers lilymidnite Jul 2017 #35

... Phentex Jul 2017 #42

I don't like it either. Cancer patients and their families have enough grief to deal with. They smirkymonkey Jul 2017 #63

I posted before that my oldest friend has this Raven Jul 2017 #9

Praying your friend has a peaceful journey... MoonRiver Jul 2017 #14

Exactly .. The sentiment expressed by obama doesnt mean that cancer Le Gaucher Jul 2017 #15

Yeah rock Jul 2017 #13

Thank you. mindfulNJ Jul 2017 #16

I hate it SHRED Jul 2017 #17

Thank you.. very well said! mountain grammy Jul 2017 #20

As an 8+ year survivor of Stage IV cancer, I disagree. I truly believe sinkingfeeling Jul 2017 #21

Congratulations! nolabear Jul 2017 #25

Thanks for posting, your opinion is the most relevant here BannonsLiver Jul 2017 #29

Thank you! GallopingGhost Jul 2017 #41

congratulations, SinkingFeeling, I am a 6 year survivor of Stage 4B cancer ... The_REAL_Ecumenist Jul 2017 #46

Was your cancer glioblastoma? TexasBushwhacker Jul 2017 #58

Interesting - I don't call it toughness, Ms. Toad Jul 2017 #69

Thank you for this PatSeg Jul 2017 #23

Agreed! Staph Jul 2017 #24

I am under treatment for cancer at this time. Chemisse Jul 2017 #57

Watching my mother fighting right now lindysalsagal Jul 2017 #27

Thought for you mother MiniMe Jul 2017 #38

Exactly. THAT's what takes guts and toughness: Refusing care. Good for her. lindysalsagal Jul 2017 #43

I wish my mother had not chosen chemo. cwydro Jul 2017 #48

Chemo cause C Iwasthere Jul 2017 #71

I think it's okay Obama said this flamingdem Jul 2017 #30

Not all cancers created equal mchill Jul 2017 #32

Sometimes the most courageous thing to do B2G Jul 2017 #36

OK, breast cancer survivor here. TNNurse Jul 2017 #37

As someone who works with cancer patients everyday... tallahasseedem Jul 2017 #39

I am an ovarian cancer survivor and I like to think that I am a bad ass mother fucker. Glimmer of Hope Jul 2017 #54

I hate the whole war vocabulary used on that disease Warpy Jul 2017 #55

Those are things people say to make themselves feel better RhodeIslandOne Jul 2017 #66

There are many ways to be "tough." VOX Jul 2017 #68

While we're on the subject of language, Ms. Toad Jul 2017 #70

This is exactly how I feel. I never tell people I'm cured. Instead, I say "I'm clear for now" I've ReformedGOPer Jul 2017 #75

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