Womans Brilliant Analogy Sums Up The Insidiousness Of Victim Blaming

[JHan]

73. Yes...

But those categories also exist in society. There's selective outrage, and in some instances victim blaming if the victim didn't meet certain standards - e.g. she was dressed "provocatively" or she was drunk etc. Predators pick up on these toxic social clues , and selectively choose who to victimize, in some cases with full knowledge that they won't be subjected to harsh judgement because of their actions. Just last year, cases where judges exercised leniency on the perp because they were "young and promising" - usually young white males -made U.S national headlines.. . Class, the perceived virtue of the victim, and a bunch of other arbitrary factors lead to victim blaming and perpetuates toxic rape affirming attitudes, enabling violence. Sometimes toxic social attitudes enable pathologies, what you describe is an example of that...

What's interesting for me, personally, is that I never assume I will be safe in the public space, sad thing is depending on circumstances I may be judged because of how late I'm out, if I'm alone, what I'm wearing - this reality ends up being an added layer of shame which further traumatizes a victim.