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LakeArenal

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29. When I got married...

Wed Aug 2, 2017, 11:59 AM

Aug 2017

I had trouble getting mail in my maiden name. As a recent graduate, I was trying to send resumes and get transcripts. If my mail didn't come "Surname-Hisname" sometimes I didn't get it, or it was returned or lost. Very frustrating at the time.

I also could not get renter's insurance if I was co-habiting. Marriage or nothin' man...

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Of Course Abortion Should Be a Litmus Test for Democrats [View all] mcar Aug 2017 OP

Simple Things Women Couldn't Do 50 Years Ago In The US Me. Aug 2017 #1

Here's another that really caused me grief as a young married woman. lark Aug 2017 #17

As For Names. Me. Aug 2017 #27

No retreat baby, no surrender. lark Aug 2017 #45

Amen To That Me. Aug 2017 #46

When I got married... LakeArenal Aug 2017 #29

I had a misadventure like that - yup, back in the mid-70s. When we'd just married. calimary Aug 2017 #31

i didnt take either husband's name. in the 70's mopinko Aug 2017 #62

Your optometrist was completely and totally wrong PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2017 #36

Actually that happened in San Jose, CA. lark Aug 2017 #44

Wow. San Jose, CA. PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2017 #55

I can tell you at the time, I was totally outraged. lark Aug 2017 #61

I don't blame you. PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2017 #66

The other side. Forty years ago, my wife did the family banking. One day, NCjack Aug 2017 #39

No. kentuck Aug 2017 #2

I think the way the author puts it is right - and agrees with you mcar Aug 2017 #4

I concur. MGKrebs Aug 2017 #9

Legislatively opposed anti-choice or "pro-life" ehrnst Aug 2017 #30

Yes romana Aug 2017 #40

Exactly correct -- abortions are reduced with education and contraceptives not with limiting choices Dorn Aug 2017 #15

Yep. K&R demmiblue Aug 2017 #3

Why not anti-vaccination Democratic candidates? Why not flat-Earth Democratic candidates? hatrack Aug 2017 #5

Winning may not be the most important thing, ... JustABozoOnThisBus Aug 2017 #6

You nailed it, Justabozo SCantiGOP Aug 2017 #26

Yep mcar Aug 2017 #10

If you had two candidates who both rejected climate science MGKrebs Aug 2017 #11

I would be amazed if we didn't have some anti vax Democratic candidates dsc Aug 2017 #12

Every situation should be judged in its own context. LAS14 Aug 2017 #16

+1000 (nt) ehrnst Aug 2017 #32

How about romana Aug 2017 #41

We've got an anti-vaxer Democrat running here LeftInTX Aug 2017 #69

K&R Solly Mack Aug 2017 #7

No one is being forced by law to get an abortion. It is and should always be a choice. A personal The Wielding Truth Aug 2017 #8

As long as we understand that "pro life" is not "anti choice", that's fine. brooklynite Aug 2017 #13

"Pro-life" means being opposed to legal abortion. It's a political term. ehrnst Aug 2017 #22

No, it doesn't... brooklynite Aug 2017 #47

"Abortion is ... not particularly controversial." geek tragedy Aug 2017 #14

This message was self-deleted by its author ehrnst Aug 2017 #21

Those 25% of Dems don't think it's a dealbreaker if they're Dems.(nt) ehrnst Aug 2017 #23

are they welcome in the party? geek tragedy Aug 2017 #24

The stat was 75% "of Democrats" think that it should be legal ehrnst Aug 2017 #28

to be blunt, we don't have the luxury of turning anyone away geek tragedy Aug 2017 #43

K/R BadgerMom Aug 2017 #18

As was said on ABC's "The View" left-of-center2012 Aug 2017 #19

Some things are simply not negotiable. hamsterjill Aug 2017 #20

That's exactly right, hamsterjill. The right to choose is NON-NEGOTIABLE. calimary Aug 2017 #34

Absa-Fucking-Lootely! hamsterjill Aug 2017 #35

'Abortion is freedom" ismnotwasm Aug 2017 #25

I can live with a Dem that is against abortion. alfredo Aug 2017 #33

I don't care about anti-choice Dems, just don't give anti-choice Dem candidates national money (nt) ehrnst Aug 2017 #37

I see anti abortion and anti choice as something different. alfredo Aug 2017 #49

Hey Blue Dogs DonCoquixote Aug 2017 #38

As long as the best available Democrat is better than the Republican... Orsino Aug 2017 #42

the pretzel twisting around here defending that anti-choice d's and why we HAVE to niyad Aug 2017 #48

Anti choice is a disqualifier, but being personally against abortion but alfredo Aug 2017 #50

Well, it is for me. I would never, ever vote for MineralMan Aug 2017 #51

As long as the person isn't pushing legislation mcar Aug 2017 #56

It's choice. Those three Democrats would probably not MineralMan Aug 2017 #57

That's right mcar Aug 2017 #58

+1. In a Women In Politics college course--For the past 40 years, 45% of women voted Republican. TheBlackAdder Aug 2017 #60

Remember you asked about Blue Dogs last week? LeftInTX Aug 2017 #70

Yawn Azathoth Aug 2017 #52

... demmiblue Aug 2017 #53

Eye rolls don't make an argument Azathoth Aug 2017 #54

It's morally reprehensible for the government to force a woman to give birth DLevine Aug 2017 #59

Come on, let's separate out medically necessary abortions Azathoth Aug 2017 #64

"The state intervenes all the time to protect children from their parents". DLevine Aug 2017 #65

"If we have no right to our own bodies, we are not full citizens." Azathoth Aug 2017 #68

There is a risk to carrying a fetus to term. DLevine Aug 2017 #71

Agreed Doug the Dem Aug 2017 #63

AND a female president as a litmus test for the U.S. How long is it going to take?? kerry-is-my-prez Aug 2017 #67

K & R mcar, good read. JHan Aug 2017 #72