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Stonepounder

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54. It seems like neither of you is going to change the other. So...

Sat Sep 2, 2017, 11:43 AM

Sep 2017

It seems obvious, don't talk politics. I know it is hard, but just don't. And, to help you both break the habit, get a 'Politics' jar. Like a swear word jar. Whoever mentions politics has to put some amount of money in the jar. Either a flat amount, or a sliding scale, depending on how egregious the comment is. Then make a game of it.

Avoiding politics is the only way you two will be able to maintain your friendship.

Believe me, I know where you are coming from. I have 5 kids - 1 is a libertarian, 1 is a Trump supporter, and 3 are liberals. (One of my sons almost got into a bar fight the other night with someone who was spouting off about how great Trump was. Matt kept giving rational counter arguments about how messed up we were with Trump. I was proud of him. )

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My Best Friend is a Trump Supporter [View all] louis c Sep 2017 OP

Well, janterry Sep 2017 #1

Good advice. OnDoutside Sep 2017 #60

I totally agree. I don't engage with Trump supporters anymore. AgadorSparticus Sep 2017 #68

This is unfortunate, but all too common FakeNoose Sep 2017 #2

Cultists can't easily give up their cult without reprogramming and this is Cult45. nt tblue37 Sep 2017 #35

His identity is fox, if he gives that up, he's no one. lindysalsagal Sep 2017 #91

Maybe it's you who has evolved also . Did you just start to notice he thinks all blacks are on lunasun Sep 2017 #3

Believe it or not louis c Sep 2017 #4

Maybe the 'no evolution'came from his church . Totally wierd if he picked up beliefs like that just lunasun Sep 2017 #6

He may have always believed that, but never said it louis c Sep 2017 #12

Does he watch Fox? Listen to Carr? sharedvalues Sep 2017 #10

Fox, all the time louis c Sep 2017 #23

You can get him back-- highlight Fox's lies sharedvalues Sep 2017 #34

Honestly, this speaks to a larger social problem we seem to have here in the US ck4829 Sep 2017 #26

Interesting. That explains a lot. n/t Beartracks Sep 2017 #62

Oh, and another thing, I have not evolved louis c Sep 2017 #9

I cut off communication with five people HAB911 Sep 2017 #5

Your friend has been a conservative asshole Alpeduez21 Sep 2017 #7

Glad you have been awake all this time. Racism didn't come with trump and anti gay religions lunasun Sep 2017 #32

"The masks are off" Girard442 Sep 2017 #37

Engage on Fox, not on politics sharedvalues Sep 2017 #8

Too bad the Brady part is negated by the team's love for Dump RhodeIslandOne Sep 2017 #21

Why do you even spend a second with this person? pangaia Sep 2017 #11

I feel your pain mdbl Sep 2017 #13

You are in a similar boat as me louis c Sep 2017 #22

I have had to do the same in some circumstances mdbl Sep 2017 #36

These people tend to obsess. Mariana Sep 2017 #63

"He didn't reason his way into it, and you can't reason his way out." mdbl Sep 2017 #96

In my experience, the arguments are not about the facts, but about Doodley Sep 2017 #77

Exactly. Mariana Sep 2017 #97

I understand Books_Tea_Alone Sep 2017 #14

Your brother sounds a little bit like my brother. Bluepinky Sep 2017 #55

Block his number Not Ruth Sep 2017 #15

Life, my patience and my temper are too short, so I avoid them whenever possible Siwsan Sep 2017 #16

I have a few friends like this... WaitWut Sep 2017 #17

Very sensible! You are a good example of how to deal with political differences. Doodley Sep 2017 #79

I feel for you. It's a tough situation, particularly when it's someone you love who has smirkymonkey Sep 2017 #18

Sometimes I have second thoughts about LuckyCharms Sep 2017 #19

Yes. My childhood friend we're both 70 now. rickford66 Sep 2017 #20

I'm sorry for your loss, but that relationship has died...we all grieve on different timelines. Moostache Sep 2017 #24

I had to block contact from a lifelong friend. yardwork Sep 2017 #25

You basically lost your friend to a cult Snake Plissken Sep 2017 #27

Yes. To get him back, need to break out of Fox cult. sharedvalues Sep 2017 #52

I live with one, my father ebbie15644 Sep 2017 #28

Yep. Baitball Blogger Sep 2017 #29

Yup, been there - done that. BlueIdaho Sep 2017 #30

My inlaws are rural conservatives Cosmocat Sep 2017 #31

Yes, my good friend and her sister who is also my friend. Known for 40 years. Fla Dem Sep 2017 #33

Yep those kind always like to say " Oh we don't mean you , you're different " lunasun Sep 2017 #71

this is war IAMSPARTICUS Sep 2017 #38

It isn't war. It is America. America has been this way for a long time. Doodley Sep 2017 #82

Yes I do just no more contact till after trump is impeached. classykaren Sep 2017 #39

The worst thing about twitlers election was how he has divided long term family and friends kimbutgar Sep 2017 #40

Your friend has been Fauxed randr Sep 2017 #41

xxx THIS HAS WORKED FOR ME xxx uponit7771 Sep 2017 #42

Liberals and Trumpinistas both trust...who? The Weather Channel? Girard442 Sep 2017 #46

Rolling Stone, Newsweek, Fortune and some other right wing sources that are scorching Trump uponit7771 Sep 2017 #48

Sadly I've lost some lifetime friends samplegirl Sep 2017 #43

send him this azureblue Sep 2017 #44

My sister and I used to be close in political ideology WhiteTara Sep 2017 #45

What is all this hatred of Jill Stein voters? Doodley Sep 2017 #83

I certainly don't hate Jill or her supporters WhiteTara Sep 2017 #88

You just can't talk to those people SCantiGOP Sep 2017 #47

I think this guy can be turned back. Doodley Sep 2017 #84

So you wouldn't suggest I say SCantiGOP Sep 2017 #90

Try these kind of phrases that force him to agree with you: Doodley Sep 2017 #95

They've been indoctrinated thoroughly by Murdoch's Faux News Texin Sep 2017 #49

"The Brainwashing of My Dad" documentary trailer Equinox Moon Sep 2017 #50

Tell him you don't want to be friends anymore. pamela Sep 2017 #51

+ 1 this is a good idea . Look at the history of Germany and how the Nazi movement grew with in lunasun Sep 2017 #72

A major difference is Hitler's following grew, but Trump's is shrinking. Doodley Sep 2017 #85

Best response in the thread. Thank you. nt Atticus Sep 2017 #74

Well he's also a big racist and that would have been a deal breaker for me. bettyellen Sep 2017 #53

It seems like neither of you is going to change the other. So... Stonepounder Sep 2017 #54

Yes, I have the same problem. lucca18 Sep 2017 #56

Maybe science Corgigal Sep 2017 #57

Good for you, and for your friend. Bruno Mars will be a blast! Doodley Sep 2017 #86

Don't talk politics, love the swear jar idea iamateacher Sep 2017 #58

My sisters boyfriend MFM008 Sep 2017 #59

Listen, say nothing....and Dan Sep 2017 #61

I'm 62 & lost a good friend I'd had since I was 13. catbyte Sep 2017 #64

No Offense Intended ProfessorGAC Sep 2017 #65

I am with you... all the way. nt Kleveland Sep 2017 #78

righties always moving the goal posts superpatriotman Sep 2017 #66

I cut them out of my life nini Sep 2017 #67

I lost a brother. janx Sep 2017 #69

No way my "best friend" could support Trump, because I would find a new one. Easy! n/t USALiberal Sep 2017 #70

I think there's been some kind of embarrassment on the part of hard righties, especially janx Sep 2017 #73

"Best friend" and "Trump supporter" don't belong in the same sentence. nt Atticus Sep 2017 #75

Not specifically. I don't drink, and that helps a lot Warpy Sep 2017 #76

It's unfortunate your friend is such a racist. SHRED Sep 2017 #80

WHO'S YOUR DADDY Goonch Sep 2017 #81

Dumping Trumpers and forcing them to be only with like-minded people does not help. Doodley Sep 2017 #87

I know people that are good human beings. Blue_true Sep 2017 #89

I'm in the same boat as you.. mitch96 Sep 2017 #92

Most of my family members are very conservative. Willie Pep Sep 2017 #93

Suggestion: Give it a year or so... KY_EnviroGuy Sep 2017 #94