I am trying to let you see into the mind of someone who has been raped. A couple of years back I was called into jury duty. When they called me to examine whether I would be a good juror, here is what I said, almost verbatim:
When I first walked into this courtroom I was going to give it my all. I was going to be fair and neutral and do my duty as a citizen. I have been sitting here, waiting my turn, for about a half hour now. My stomach has been churning and I am feeling quite queasy. I know this is not a rape case but I must give you background. I am a rape survivor. I never went to the cops because if I did, they would ask me questions about what I was doing and how much I had been drinking, as if it was my fault. I did not want to go to court because people like this prosecutor would ask me questions about my sexual history and how I was dressed. Our legal system is one that easily makes the survivor into the person on trial and being prosecuted. I am pretty vocal in the rape community and I have told a lot of people that I do not blame them for not coming forward and, in fact, I support them. I look around me right now and all I can think about is how I could not trust cops, the same ones who you have said will testify in this case. How I cannot trust a judge when one of our supreme court justices stopped a trial just to ask a rape victim what she was wearing. How I cannot trust lawyers who would turn a crime against me into a trail about me. No, I cannot be fair and if I were raped again, I would not report it because of the legal system I would have to deal with.
They dismissed me at once. It was that day that I realized that as a rape survivor, I have nothing but contempt for our legal system.