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usedtobedemgurl

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12. I am not boasting about getting out of jury duty, understand that from the get go....
Sun Sep 17, 2017, 09:19 PM
Sep 2017

I am trying to let you see into the mind of someone who has been raped. A couple of years back I was called into jury duty. When they called me to examine whether I would be a good juror, here is what I said, almost verbatim:

When I first walked into this courtroom I was going to give it my all. I was going to be fair and neutral and do my duty as a citizen. I have been sitting here, waiting my turn, for about a half hour now. My stomach has been churning and I am feeling quite queasy. I know this is not a rape case but I must give you background. I am a rape survivor. I never went to the cops because if I did, they would ask me questions about what I was doing and how much I had been drinking, as if it was my fault. I did not want to go to court because people like this prosecutor would ask me questions about my sexual history and how I was dressed. Our legal system is one that easily makes the survivor into the person on trial and being prosecuted. I am pretty vocal in the rape community and I have told a lot of people that I do not blame them for not coming forward and, in fact, I support them. I look around me right now and all I can think about is how I could not trust cops, the same ones who you have said will testify in this case. How I cannot trust a judge when one of our supreme court justices stopped a trial just to ask a rape victim what she was wearing. How I cannot trust lawyers who would turn a crime against me into a trail about me. No, I cannot be fair and if I were raped again, I would not report it because of the legal system I would have to deal with.

They dismissed me at once. It was that day that I realized that as a rape survivor, I have nothing but contempt for our legal system.

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Can't read it because it is behind a paywall. nt DURHAM D Sep 2017 #1
I think I'm allowed to quote 2 paras, right? LAS14 Sep 2017 #4
Interesting read cyclonefence Sep 2017 #2
she could be mistaken dsc Sep 2017 #3
Yes, but cyclonefence Sep 2017 #6
Could you explain more fully? LAS14 Sep 2017 #5
I am not equating women with children cyclonefence Sep 2017 #7
OK, then let's work really hard to insure that victim's accusations... LAS14 Sep 2017 #9
I understand what you're saying cyclonefence Sep 2017 #10
This kind of reasoning would make me crazy if I were... LAS14 Sep 2017 #8
That line of reasoning makes you crazy? Why? kcr Sep 2017 #14
It would make me crazy to think that in the case of rape... LAS14 Sep 2017 #19
You're confusing me with someone else. I didn't say anything about "no bono", whatever that means. kcr Sep 2017 #23
Cyclone fence used the phrase cui bono... who benefits, and... LAS14 Sep 2017 #24
Bumping after an unwanted hiatus. nt LAS14 Sep 2017 #11
I am not boasting about getting out of jury duty, understand that from the get go.... usedtobedemgurl Sep 2017 #12
I don't disagree that their is a history... LAS14 Sep 2017 #16
No one is saying we should put rapists in jail without a trial.... usedtobedemgurl Sep 2017 #22
I hold an opinion less popular than Title IX advocates OR Betsy Devoss Nevernose Sep 2017 #13
Thanks for articulating another angle that... LAS14 Sep 2017 #15
I can't read the article so I don't know what their criteria is for calling these lawyers feminist kcr Sep 2017 #17
I added 2 more paras and a comment of my own. nt LAS14 Sep 2017 #20
Four paragraphs. nt tblue37 Sep 2017 #18
Thanks. I added 2 more paras and a comment of my own. nt LAS14 Sep 2017 #21
Not all about legal zipplewrath Sep 2017 #25
Thanks. Thoughtful and intelligent. nt LAS14 Sep 2017 #27
This is very empowering to this feminist get the red out Sep 2017 #26
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