What Were You Wearing?' exhibit takes aim at age-old sexual violence myth

[mountain grammy]

77. Good questions, every one.

I know it affected him because he was very protective of our daughter and warned her often of the evils in the world. Be alert, he'd tell her, don't leave your drink unattended, keep your friends close. There's some bad guys out there. Did he speak up at the time? I didn't ask him, but doubtful.

But really, to your point. America's rape culture will continue to flourish as long as good men (and women) remain silent, just like everything else; Silence is consent. I remember when I was working in a mostly male environment, the guys always had a sexy calendar up in the break room that we all had to walk through, and I never cared. But then, a few put up some real raunchy posters and I objected. When they stayed up, I complained to my boss, who promptly took them down. He had seen them too and just ignored it. A couple of the men were pissed (assholes) but several thanked me. Said they were embarrassed everytime a woman walked through the room. I asked them why they didn't say something. They just shrugged. I concluded, men are afraid of each other too. At the time, I was a single mom with two young sons and I made this a lesson for them. Don't be afraid to speak out for women. When you know something's wrong or you know your mom would object, say something!

Hope all's well with you, Blanche.