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23. I have always learned to be nice and deferernt so as not to arouse any anger in the

Fri Oct 6, 2017, 10:03 PM

Oct 2017

catcallers, but the anger grew in me. I hated having to be that way just so I wouldn't have to deal with rudeness or violence. It's such a fine line to walk. You feel so vulnerable, yet you don't dare show them how much you resent them for fear of being harmed.

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In case any DUers don't understand why most women HATE to be catcalled, [View all] pnwmom Oct 2017 OP

Good for her. LisaM Oct 2017 #1

Compelling photos. LuckyCharms Oct 2017 #2

Dominance Hekate Oct 2017 #8

The thing is... LuckyCharms Oct 2017 #11

We are taught from an early age to never talk to strangers -- because rape Hekate Oct 2017 #18

I do not encourage engagement with catcalling men. LuckyCharms Oct 2017 #20

Okay, got that Hekate Oct 2017 #21

And this young woman had at least one friend accompanying her, as a witness. pnwmom Oct 2017 #27

I think that is one reason. Another is the men know the woman is out of their league but Dustlawyer Oct 2017 #37

Not to belittle or turn the tables or... ProudLib72 Oct 2017 #3

Happened to me once in my life. LuckyCharms Oct 2017 #4

That's right. They have to walk to work through a gauntlet. n/t pnwmom Oct 2017 #7

I've watched catcalling videos on youtube. LuckyCharms Oct 2017 #9

Then you'll understand how unwelcome it is. And I'm sure you realize it's much more common pnwmom Oct 2017 #5

Yes, and like LuckyCharms said ProudLib72 Oct 2017 #10

As a male I would hope that basic human decency would tell someone that it is wrong. nycbos Oct 2017 #6

As a male, I've never understood catcalling. christx30 Oct 2017 #22

Thanks for your awareness and acting on it positively. n/t pnwmom Oct 2017 #43

It doesn't look as if any of these men learned anything from this. enough Oct 2017 #12

Thank you. raging moderate Oct 2017 #30

She's a brave woman. 50 Shades Of Blue Oct 2017 #13

Powerful message Beringia Oct 2017 #14

"If women on the street said I looked nice, it'd make my day!" WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2017 #15

+1. I was going to post it. Thank you for doing so. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2017 #16

I used to have that happen to me and my friends yuiyoshida Oct 2017 #17

I learned back in college in NYC to walk straight past them BigmanPigman Oct 2017 #19

I have always learned to be nice and deferernt so as not to arouse any anger in the smirkymonkey Oct 2017 #23

Right. Women and girls in that position are vulnerable, whether they know it or not. n/t pnwmom Oct 2017 #24

It doesn't end there Lazy Daisy Oct 2017 #38

Or maybe any kind of job. pnwmom Oct 2017 #40

When I was 9 years old NastyRiffraff Oct 2017 #25

Disgusting! I remember being a 6th grader walking in my suburban neighborhood, pnwmom Oct 2017 #26

Once, at age 13, I had my breast grabbed. raging moderate Oct 2017 #31

Yes! That was sexual assault and of course it was terrifying. pnwmom Oct 2017 #32

Ugh... I feel like I need to shower. procon Oct 2017 #28

I remember one night a friend of mine and I were walking to her Doreen Oct 2017 #29

Your looks have little to do with it really. My mom got propositioned once when she was very... Hekate Oct 2017 #33

I agree. Just like men rape without regard to appearance, they make catcalls. pnwmom Oct 2017 #36

You have a very good point. Doreen Oct 2017 #42

When I was working downtown SF in 74 I used to run quickly pass where the construction workers were kimbutgar Oct 2017 #34

As Jerry Seinfeld noted, it doesnt work. bluepen Oct 2017 #35

Why do these guys smile for selfies? IronLionZion Oct 2017 #39

When they do it with their buddies it's a bonding opportunity. pnwmom Oct 2017 #41

I have never been able to understand such behavior. MineralMan Oct 2017 #44

I was so happy when I turned 40 Chalco Oct 2017 #45

I wonder if it is illegal to turn around and aim a big black pen at them and pretend it is a gun Maraya1969 Oct 2017 #46

This is some ryan_cats Oct 2017 #47

Who's going to beat them? Not the young woman just trying to go where she's going. n/t pnwmom Oct 2017 #48