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Dustlawyer

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18. Every time I saw him until he died 14 years ago.

Sun Nov 12, 2017, 09:45 AM

Nov 2017

"In the Living Years" by Mike & the Mechanics speaks of the differences we can have with our fathers and how we need to make peace with our Fathers before they are gone. While we always got along it made me really appreciate him more while i still had him.

My dad once told me his father never told him he loved him. He made it a point to tell me how much he loved me after that. It was something that he must have given a lot of thought to. Knowing my grandfather I understood, he didn't hug me either. I was important to him to "carry on the family name" and not much else.

My son hugs me every time we get to see each other. We have a wonderful relationship for which I am eternally grateful for. I wish everyone would at least try. Listen to the song if you need inspiration and I hope you can patch any differences with your fathers you may have.

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Guys, when was the last time you hugged your father? [View all] briv1016 Nov 2017 OP

45 years ago, if at all. On the the other hand, I hugged my own son this morning, and do so as often OnDoutside Nov 2017 #1

At my mom's funeral a few weeks ago Shrek Nov 2017 #2

oh, I am so sorry for your loss.... samnsara Nov 2017 #5

I hug my dad all the time Drahthaardogs Nov 2017 #3

Adult males don't hug. It is also cultural. FarCenter Nov 2017 #7

Yes, they do. Drahthaardogs Nov 2017 #9

Some of us do. Codeine Nov 2017 #21

Like I said, it's cultural. Possibly generational as well. FarCenter Nov 2017 #23

I hug my friends and my family all the time tymorial Nov 2017 #44

Says who? Egnever Nov 2017 #53

I did. And sometimes... Adrahil Nov 2017 #59

We're half Italian as well and my brothers always hug my dad. smirkymonkey Nov 2017 #38

hubby hugs my father all the time... his own father passed 40 yrs ago samnsara Nov 2017 #4

Christmas 2003 TexasProgresive Nov 2017 #6

August 12, 2011 JustAnotherGen Nov 2017 #8

My son hugs and kissed his Dad every time he comes over. He is 27. Demsrule86 Nov 2017 #10

In July PJMcK Nov 2017 #11

I cannot remember ever hugging my father. He was not the hugging type. justhanginon Nov 2017 #12

My father was the same and I never hugged him unless maybe doc03 Nov 2017 #15

I hugged my Dad every time we saw each other... N_E_1 for Tennis Nov 2017 #13

February 21, 2003, as he died. For years, we had been the stereotypical Atticus Nov 2017 #14

September 1980, shortly before he died. VOX Nov 2017 #16

When I graduated college (I think) NickB79 Nov 2017 #17

Every time I saw him until he died 14 years ago. Dustlawyer Nov 2017 #18

Here you go... True Dough Nov 2017 #29

That song Always wrecks me tymorial Nov 2017 #45

Thanks. Dustlawyer Nov 2017 #48

Everytime we see each other, aka approx twice a year. JDC Nov 2017 #19

I'm a chick, but July 21, 2009. moriah Nov 2017 #20

Never met the man, so fuck him. nt Codeine Nov 2017 #22

Hear ya on that one... fuck all the absent fathers. InAbLuEsTaTe Nov 2017 #32

Dad only met his father once. Sadly he didn't have your attitude. moriah Nov 2017 #35

Can't remember DiverDave Nov 2017 #24

On my recent birthday. Iggo Nov 2017 #25

1992. greatauntoftriplets Nov 2017 #26

My father died when I was in high school 52 years ago. Golden Raisin Nov 2017 #27

Not sure I ever did... Wounded Bear Nov 2017 #28

The Day He Died ProfessorGAC Nov 2017 #30

When he was lying dead at the funeral home. InAbLuEsTaTe Nov 2017 #31

I get out west to visit my mom and dad every 3 years or so. aikoaiko Nov 2017 #33

When I was 14. So if you have your Dad still around...HUG HIM..even if he's a tRUMPer. Kirk Lover Nov 2017 #34

December 20, 2012 Efilroft Sul Nov 2017 #36

I hug my dad every time I see him. Dave Starsky Nov 2017 #37

Same here. roamer65 Nov 2017 #40

This is a beautiful thread malaise Nov 2017 #39

Recommended. What a lovely thread. Tatiana Nov 2017 #41

The day he died in a hospital... and NEVER before. Buckeye_Democrat Nov 2017 #42

Just the other day tymorial Nov 2017 #43

Two years ago today. NT Foolacious Nov 2017 #46

Every day for the eighteen months I took care of him SonofDonald Nov 2017 #47

He's been dead almost 3 years, so almost 3 years. ileus Nov 2017 #49

I hug my son-in-law. He hugs back. trof Nov 2017 #50

This message was self-deleted by its author Squinch Nov 2017 #51

Wow what a lesson. My family didn't hug much and I'm sure my brother and father did OldHippieChick Nov 2017 #52

Yesterday Lefta Dissenter Nov 2017 #54

The last time I saw him. One month before he died. Freethinker65 Nov 2017 #55

Never. ghostsinthemachine Nov 2017 #56

That's it, never UTUSN Nov 2017 #57

He died a while ago, but... Adrahil Nov 2017 #58

A few hours ago Justice Nov 2017 #60

A few weeks ago, last time my dad and my mom ventured back to California on a big jet airplane. hunter Nov 2017 #61

When I left him at airport security yesterday Sen. Walter Sobchak Nov 2017 #62

My Father is 79 and I Texasgal Nov 2017 #63

This message was self-deleted by its author Skittles Nov 2017 #64

Not a man, but my dad is a big hugger. In our family we always give hugs goodbye, even the men. Luciferous Nov 2017 #65

The night he died. My dad was 83 years old. He had broken his hip and ankle and old age had caught mulsh Nov 2017 #66

Hug my son every time I see him seleff Nov 2017 #67

I'm a gal but it was 20 years ago when mother died, my father, brother and me had a group Raine Nov 2017 #68

About 60 seconds before life left him DFW Nov 2017 #69

Thanks. I'm going to pay more attention now. I think my husband hugs my sons pnwmom Nov 2017 #70