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tymorial

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43. Just the other day

Sun Nov 12, 2017, 01:31 PM

Nov 2017

My dad helps watch my daughter a couple days a week. I started giving him hugs and telling him that I love him regularly when I graduated from college. He never had a close relationship with his father. I don't think they ever said I love you to each other. I only saw them Embrace once when my grandparents came up from Florida the year before my grandfather died. I know it weighs heavily on my dad especially as he approaches the same age.

My dad is my hero and I really mean that. He is quite frankly the most selfless, kind and loving person I know. He rarely said I love you when my sister and I were little but I always knew he did. He was a product of a family where emotion just wasnt expressed. So when I got older and a little wiser I realized that expressions of love matter. So I tell him I love him and hug him when I see him. It is my job to make sure he knows.

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Guys, when was the last time you hugged your father? [View all] briv1016 Nov 2017 OP

45 years ago, if at all. On the the other hand, I hugged my own son this morning, and do so as often OnDoutside Nov 2017 #1

At my mom's funeral a few weeks ago Shrek Nov 2017 #2

oh, I am so sorry for your loss.... samnsara Nov 2017 #5

I hug my dad all the time Drahthaardogs Nov 2017 #3

Adult males don't hug. It is also cultural. FarCenter Nov 2017 #7

Yes, they do. Drahthaardogs Nov 2017 #9

Some of us do. Codeine Nov 2017 #21

Like I said, it's cultural. Possibly generational as well. FarCenter Nov 2017 #23

I hug my friends and my family all the time tymorial Nov 2017 #44

Says who? Egnever Nov 2017 #53

I did. And sometimes... Adrahil Nov 2017 #59

We're half Italian as well and my brothers always hug my dad. smirkymonkey Nov 2017 #38

hubby hugs my father all the time... his own father passed 40 yrs ago samnsara Nov 2017 #4

Christmas 2003 TexasProgresive Nov 2017 #6

August 12, 2011 JustAnotherGen Nov 2017 #8

My son hugs and kissed his Dad every time he comes over. He is 27. Demsrule86 Nov 2017 #10

In July PJMcK Nov 2017 #11

I cannot remember ever hugging my father. He was not the hugging type. justhanginon Nov 2017 #12

My father was the same and I never hugged him unless maybe doc03 Nov 2017 #15

I hugged my Dad every time we saw each other... N_E_1 for Tennis Nov 2017 #13

February 21, 2003, as he died. For years, we had been the stereotypical Atticus Nov 2017 #14

September 1980, shortly before he died. VOX Nov 2017 #16

When I graduated college (I think) NickB79 Nov 2017 #17

Every time I saw him until he died 14 years ago. Dustlawyer Nov 2017 #18

Here you go... True Dough Nov 2017 #29

That song Always wrecks me tymorial Nov 2017 #45

Thanks. Dustlawyer Nov 2017 #48

Everytime we see each other, aka approx twice a year. JDC Nov 2017 #19

I'm a chick, but July 21, 2009. moriah Nov 2017 #20

Never met the man, so fuck him. nt Codeine Nov 2017 #22

Hear ya on that one... fuck all the absent fathers. InAbLuEsTaTe Nov 2017 #32

Dad only met his father once. Sadly he didn't have your attitude. moriah Nov 2017 #35

Can't remember DiverDave Nov 2017 #24

On my recent birthday. Iggo Nov 2017 #25

1992. greatauntoftriplets Nov 2017 #26

My father died when I was in high school 52 years ago. Golden Raisin Nov 2017 #27

Not sure I ever did... Wounded Bear Nov 2017 #28

The Day He Died ProfessorGAC Nov 2017 #30

When he was lying dead at the funeral home. InAbLuEsTaTe Nov 2017 #31

I get out west to visit my mom and dad every 3 years or so. aikoaiko Nov 2017 #33

When I was 14. So if you have your Dad still around...HUG HIM..even if he's a tRUMPer. Kirk Lover Nov 2017 #34

December 20, 2012 Efilroft Sul Nov 2017 #36

I hug my dad every time I see him. Dave Starsky Nov 2017 #37

Same here. roamer65 Nov 2017 #40

This is a beautiful thread malaise Nov 2017 #39

Recommended. What a lovely thread. Tatiana Nov 2017 #41

The day he died in a hospital... and NEVER before. Buckeye_Democrat Nov 2017 #42

Just the other day tymorial Nov 2017 #43

Two years ago today. NT Foolacious Nov 2017 #46

Every day for the eighteen months I took care of him SonofDonald Nov 2017 #47

He's been dead almost 3 years, so almost 3 years. ileus Nov 2017 #49

I hug my son-in-law. He hugs back. trof Nov 2017 #50

This message was self-deleted by its author Squinch Nov 2017 #51

Wow what a lesson. My family didn't hug much and I'm sure my brother and father did OldHippieChick Nov 2017 #52

Yesterday Lefta Dissenter Nov 2017 #54

The last time I saw him. One month before he died. Freethinker65 Nov 2017 #55

Never. ghostsinthemachine Nov 2017 #56

That's it, never UTUSN Nov 2017 #57

He died a while ago, but... Adrahil Nov 2017 #58

A few hours ago Justice Nov 2017 #60

A few weeks ago, last time my dad and my mom ventured back to California on a big jet airplane. hunter Nov 2017 #61

When I left him at airport security yesterday Sen. Walter Sobchak Nov 2017 #62

My Father is 79 and I Texasgal Nov 2017 #63

This message was self-deleted by its author Skittles Nov 2017 #64

Not a man, but my dad is a big hugger. In our family we always give hugs goodbye, even the men. Luciferous Nov 2017 #65

The night he died. My dad was 83 years old. He had broken his hip and ankle and old age had caught mulsh Nov 2017 #66

Hug my son every time I see him seleff Nov 2017 #67

I'm a gal but it was 20 years ago when mother died, my father, brother and me had a group Raine Nov 2017 #68

About 60 seconds before life left him DFW Nov 2017 #69

Thanks. I'm going to pay more attention now. I think my husband hugs my sons pnwmom Nov 2017 #70