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calimary

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84. You're welcome. That's exactly what happened.
Mon Nov 13, 2017, 03:50 PM
Nov 2017

What else happened:

Evidently, somebody'd noticed I had spoken to Gloria Allred. There were a few calls coming into the station complaining about what had happened on the air. Granted, my dad and my husband were among them, but there were evidently more than two. The behavior toward me changed a little. Suddenly the GM was calling me into his office, to offer me a "lovely parting gift" of $3,000. My dad heard that and said "if you can get $3,000, you can get $50,000." I'd already suspected as much. The GM also "suggested" to me that if I pursued any sort of redress (like if I sued), "you might never get hired in this city again."

DAYUM I learned so much during that little bit of time! In my head, I was already busy calculating financial and other costs. Okay so $50 grand? And indeed WHAT IF it winds up that nobody will hire me from here on if I sue (and presumably win)? Will $50 grand be enough to live on? Anything I could do preemptively, aside from maybe hiring Gloria Allred to take my case, in which it would be splashy and noisy and covered coast-to-coast? I calculated my "worth", as in clout, and name-recognition value. As in - was I prominent enough, at least locally, that I had some weight to throw around? Answer: NO. "News chick" on rock stations. Never mind that you worked morning drive, on-air. It was the (male) morning jock you worked with, who got the big paycheck, programming's priority, and all the promotional attention. Morning show was the heaviest of the heavy-weights in the pecking order. Still is. All your high-priced big-name talent is on in the morning. All the must-buy advertisers are on in the morning. A good morning show can carry the whole rest of the day and do well in the ratings. Afternoon drive in radio is big, too, but secondary to morning drive.

Success is like that. "The Tonight Show" alone, during Johnny Carson's day, provided one quarter of ALL of NBC's revenue. ONE out of every FOUR dollars the network brought in came from the Carson show. "Today" much the same, especially when Carson was king of late nights. People would fall asleep with their TVs tuned to his channel, and sure enough, they'd wake up the next morning to check on the news - on NBC's morning monolith. Johnny's parking spot on the lot was PRIMO. Do note, btw, that his longtime nightly sidekick Ed McMahon DIDN'T have a parking space that close to the stage door. Nor did he have that size paycheck or promotional prominence.

Anyway - my instinct was to lay low, take the three grand, and leave quietly because THAT reinforced that I had some dignity. I did already have an ace in the hole, though, and nobody at the station knew about that. I was getting ready to leave anyway. I had another job lined up at NBC Radio. I've occasionally mentioned being part of that network's experiment - a news network that programmed to rock stations. Nobody cared about such things until John Lennon got shot. We were already up and running by then, and our New York reporter's coverage was referenced in Rolling Stone magazine's coverage of it.

But I gotta tell ya - I know what it is and how it feels when you read about your replacement in the trade papers - before anybody in charge has the decency to tell you. And because the programming, music department, and upper management got the trades before they filtered all the way down the hall to where the newsroom was, EVERYBODY'D read about me in the pop/rock column, being replaced by the new jock's morning man before I saw it. This "hilarious" moment ensued, wherein I had indeed read the column and saw that I was about to be replaced, and by whom. So as I approached the hallway to the other side of the building, who should come breathlessly hustling out of his office but the program director. He sure was a piece of work. The same guy who roared hot bile and burning asphalt (accessorized with strings of swear words) at all of us at various times, and whose temper was usually dialed up to about two-thousand degrees Fahrenheit (except for the way he fawned over the new morning jock and his on-air entourage), was much different at this moment. He was serious in demeanor, his facial expression was earnest and troubled, his eyes were great big, and his chin was tipped downward instead of jutting out, as if to jam his way into your comfort zone and intimidate you (notice with trump sometimes! Same posture!). He was nervous. He called me by name and said "I need to talk to you." I knew what it was about. I smiled and said so. I believe my comment was "I'll bet you do." We didn't talk for long. At that point, I figured any encounter with him was irrelevant. I was already outta there.

One of the other jocks, in the meantime, let it be known to me that he had a copy of that morning show disaster and wanted to make sure I had it (should I need it for any reason...). He beckoned me through the news booth glass window to come into the studio while he was on the air. He said he wanted to give me a hug. I complied and while we were hugging, he slipped me his copy in a little bag. Wanted to make sure no one saw. I did have a few friends there.

Oddly enough, two jobs later, I was being interviewed by the manager and news director of the FM sister station to that other one. The horrific incident there a few years earlier came up in the conversation. At one point, the news director, a rather brilliant and highly creative woman (who wound up being really terrific to work for/with) blurted out, "so you sued, right?" I corrected the record eagerly, because I never did sue. I liked my work and I wanted to be able to keep doing it. I knew women who suffered abuse and sued, and won. They won A LOT. Which was GOOD. Because that's what they lived on, from then on. They never worked in that capacity again. Btw - they wound up hiring me at that FM station.

I heard Gloria Allred's next client promo'd just a little bit ago. My reaction is: "God Bless Gloria. Standing up for us again! Taking our side when nobody else will! And making the guilty SWEAT."

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Right now, Roy Moore is wondering which one. VermontKevin Nov 2017 #1
Sad but true. NurseJackie Nov 2017 #6
That's the whole point of announcing w/o naming yet. moriah Nov 2017 #16
Yep. She's a great lawyer. VermontKevin Nov 2017 #19
I am not familiar enough with every case she's done... moriah Nov 2017 #29
Civil suits very much in play. Defamation, slander, libel. VermontKevin Nov 2017 #30
Well, first anyone sane would focus on getting the allegations out there... moriah Nov 2017 #32
That's why there's a long SOL. VermontKevin Nov 2017 #33
Yeah but... mrsadm Nov 2017 #109
w/o her consent... Madam45for2923 Nov 2017 #2
With or without the consent of a minor BoneyardDem Nov 2017 #22
I wish that people would stay away from the likes of Allred and her daughter, Lisa Bloom Maven Nov 2017 #3
Agree Johnny2X2X Nov 2017 #5
Won't deny Allred is an opportunist, but at least she knows how to get accuser the media attention iluvtennis Nov 2017 #11
She has been successful DemocratSinceBirth Nov 2017 #66
Nice article. Thanks iluvtennis Nov 2017 #93
Do you think there are many lawyers in Alabama willing to ehrnst Nov 2017 #17
no.. sarah FAILIN Nov 2017 #42
Good point! oasis Nov 2017 #60
People confuse media exposure with competence and expertise jberryhill Nov 2017 #23
People also believe the former denies the latter... LanternWaste Nov 2017 #58
Moore's supporters are going to attack Allred. DemocratSinceBirth Nov 2017 #64
They know they cannot sue the accuser. Ilsa Nov 2017 #96
Ummm... beg to differ. calimary Nov 2017 #39
Thanks for the background! (nt) ehrnst Nov 2017 #40
You're welcome. That's exactly what happened. calimary Nov 2017 #84
Thanks for sharing that touching story. KY_EnviroGuy Nov 2017 #46
Thank you so much! calimary Nov 2017 #104
I appreciate your effort. BigBearJohn Nov 2017 #49
I appreciate this from you. calimary Nov 2017 #105
Thanks for that story. flying_wahini Nov 2017 #53
Thanks, back. calimary Nov 2017 #106
+ 1,000 Achilleaze Nov 2017 #54
Thank you, Achilleaze. calimary Nov 2017 #107
Wow, thanks for your excellent and SO well-written post. I was hanging on every word. PearliePoo2 Nov 2017 #63
Thank you, PearliePoo2. calimary Nov 2017 #103
Thank you calimary. Recounting your story was a brave thing to do. Glorfindel Nov 2017 #67
Thanks, sweetie. calimary Nov 2017 #98
I can only hope that the tide is turning. I was raised by parents who taught us to cherish and Glorfindel Nov 2017 #101
Thank you for sharing peabody Nov 2017 #78
Thank you, too, peabody. calimary Nov 2017 #108
Thank you for sharing your story. Maven Nov 2017 #100
Oh heavens, Maven, NO need to apologize! calimary Nov 2017 #102
Allred should not have taken case Juliusseizure Nov 2017 #65
They both remind me of F. Lee Bailey. maveric Nov 2017 #110
I'm sure there are many more women who have been silenced or are too scared of repurcussions SweetieD Nov 2017 #4
Me too Jarqui Nov 2017 #8
That's how Steve Bannon "got rid of" his wife, just before he was about to face abuse charges. calimary Nov 2017 #41
A man who bragged that he grabbed women by the pussy is President Jarqui Nov 2017 #48
The Pussy Grabbing President being elected OVER a historically.... northoftheborder Nov 2017 #55
Nor will I. calimary Nov 2017 #99
republicans gearing up to deflect truth Achilleaze Nov 2017 #7
Child molestor rapist scum TEB Nov 2017 #9
These revelations will cement his victory among his frothing Republican base Orrex Nov 2017 #10
Id rather vote for him than any democrat. Roland99 Nov 2017 #12
They are a cult of idiot racist fuckheads Orrex Nov 2017 #14
How about they just sit this one out? Grammy23 Nov 2017 #15
i wouldnt be so sure about that, Now that Mcconnell has come forward maybe Ryan will follow... Old Vet Nov 2017 #21
I hope you're right Orrex Nov 2017 #25
Sadly, you are right. cwydro Nov 2017 #24
The poor guy is being crucified like Jesus IronLionZion Nov 2017 #13
LOL - who didn't see this coming? Vinca Nov 2017 #18
This will probably help Moore MatthewG. Nov 2017 #20
It's the seating war. McConnell knows he may win Alabama and lose the rest of VermontKevin Nov 2017 #28
Thats true MatthewG. Nov 2017 #35
Oh, wait 'til you see the seating war ads and the disgusting crap this VermontKevin Nov 2017 #36
Seating War? MatthewG. Nov 2017 #38
Congress can refuse to seat a member. VermontKevin Nov 2017 #43
Hadnt been aware of that... MatthewG. Nov 2017 #45
The victim is still going to be outing herself as well as him. moriah Nov 2017 #47
Another young hussy throwing herself at a pedo... BoneyardDem Nov 2017 #26
So not only is Moore a pedo, he is a liar too. The_Casual_Observer Nov 2017 #27
and he sounds like a liar too. Ligyron Nov 2017 #37
Good. A propos of nothing, I've never liked Allred and Hortensis Nov 2017 #31
If nothing else she doesn't charge fees for these things. moriah Nov 2017 #56
this is why McConnell staked out his position today. Alabama is shaping up, again, to be a major wiggs Nov 2017 #34
Media focuses on Moore's sex issues but they are FAR from the only wiggs Nov 2017 #44
we knew it was coming..... spanone Nov 2017 #50
Look at ALL the white male trolls attacking Gloria Allred. L. Coyote Nov 2017 #51
"Gloria Allred" was trending on Twitter a little while ago. GoCubsGo Nov 2017 #68
They are delusional if they think Russian/Republican bots still frame the narrative. L. Coyote Nov 2017 #89
republican true colors are #PedophilePuce Achilleaze Nov 2017 #52
I think this a great commentary on American culture. Scruffy1 Nov 2017 #57
Roy Moore belongs in jail, not in congress. oasis Nov 2017 #59
Will be watching malaise Nov 2017 #61
Live stream seemingly about to run moriah Nov 2017 #62
It's running, with a millennial who can't stop staring at his smartphone in a darkened room snooper2 Nov 2017 #69
I see him. Thank goodness that's all he's doing. Madam45for2923 Nov 2017 #71
ROFL... moriah Nov 2017 #91
It's all good! I did not miss anything neither. Madam45for2923 Nov 2017 #92
Showtime? Madam45for2923 Nov 2017 #70
got m$nbc....no mention spanone Nov 2017 #72
The link above is live and we are waiting while we can watch young man waiting with us. Madam45for2923 Nov 2017 #73
She is here now! Show--time!!!! Madam45for2923 Nov 2017 #74
and the cable channels are not covering/thanks for the link spanone Nov 2017 #75
Beverly Dale Johnson? Madam45for2923 Nov 2017 #79
m$nbc, cnn...no live coverage spanone Nov 2017 #81
Maybe they want to hear/see first before airing. Madam45for2923 Nov 2017 #82
maybe..... spanone Nov 2017 #83
Beverly Nelson Madam45for2923 Nov 2017 #85
I feel sad looking at the lady. Madam45for2923 Nov 2017 #76
Nothing on TV. cwydro Nov 2017 #77
Live in this link: Madam45for2923 Nov 2017 #80
Thanks. cwydro Nov 2017 #87
Ali Velshi (MSNBC) showed a clip and is discussing it now. n/t demmiblue Nov 2017 #90
Accusation is sexual assault/rape. brooklynite Nov 2017 #86
This message was self-deleted by its author Glimmer of Hope Nov 2017 #88
On CNN now n/t malaise Nov 2017 #94
Doesn't matter - he's still up 10 in post-WP polling . . . hatrack Nov 2017 #95
just heard her brave news conference......... Takket Nov 2017 #97
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