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In reply to the discussion: I've been in denial. [View all]

Grammy23

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85. I just read through the long list of replies and it made me think....
Wed Nov 15, 2017, 08:43 AM
Nov 2017

As much as one CAN think at the crack of dawn.

Your comment about the anger made me realize I’ve had some level of anger since 2000 when Bush the Younger was (s)elected. I didn’t get to vote that year because my sister died and we were at her funeral out of town on Election Day. I remember our family watching the returns that night and just being gob smacked at the way things were going. Then that whole debacle that followed hit us all between the eyes. What followed was 8 years of more unbelievably wacko events that kept many of us enraged and feeling rather powerless.

And then came Obama. We were on top of the world. At last our nightmare was over. Everything seemed just primed and ready to make things good again. Turn it all around. Until we got that kick in the gut feeling as the Republicans tried to twart everything Obama set out to do. He managed to pull off some amazing hat tricks even as they worked behind the scenes to destroy his presidency. So we felt a little better.

It was a false sense of security to get lulled in by what Obama accomplished in the face of opposition determined to stop him. We let our guard down and along came tRump. We were sure that Hillary, smart, poised, accomplished would run circles around him. And she did. But we were not counting on how determined he was to win. We didn’t know then what we know now. So our common sense told us that no one in their right mind would vote for someone as vile as him. But we were wrong.

Not only did a lot of people vote for that disgusting piece of trash, there was a thumb on the scale that we didn’t realize was screwing over the rest of us. And now we’ve had just about a year of his self serving, criminally tainted administration destroying everything in its path. We watch in abject horror, never knowing from one day to the next what they will do that disgusts or dismays us.

So it is no wonder we are angry. We have very good reasons to be paranoid, seething with the knowledge that the very foundation of our country is being undermined from within. And we feel powerless to do a damn thing except seethe and come to places like DU to vent our rage and commiserate. The power to fight back that we felt on the day after Inauguration Day, put on a pussy hat and say HELL NO, has more or less dissipated. We feel demoralized and defeated. And that is not a good place to be.

The good news (and goodness knows we need some of that) is that Mueller is working like a demon to pull this case against tRump and his minions together. It has more sides to it than an octopus has tentacles. It is complicated by design. It is going in 40 directions at once. But Mueller is no fool and the man knows how to delegate. No one person could do it all, so he has Chopped this bugger up and is slowly but surely figuring out their scheme and scams.

So I think we need to dry our tears of frustration, hold our heads high and count on our system to work. It is hard, damn hard with tRump ruining so much, but hang on we must. Find better coping skills. Less drinking hard liquor, more cool water. Less sitting in the recliner, brooding and stewing. More walking, doing something creative and fun. Keep up with what’s going on but not in a compulsive, destructive way. We can do this but it won’t be easy or painless.

I think we still need to turn to our friends and buds here at DU but we need to revamp our interactions so we encourage and embolden each other to do better. And channel some energy back into ourselves so we dig out that pussy hat and let others know we’re mad as hell and not gonna sit back and just take it. Organize, demonstrate and refuse to knuckle under.

We need a mix of spunk, creative outlets and more laughter, less angst. So let us make a pact that we will do better, try not to sink into despair and know that this fight we are in will not last forever. Believe that tRump’s time is coming to an end sooner rather than later. We have to latch on to the positive and move forward and not allow ourselves to become mired in the past.

Hope we all have better days...starting with this one!

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I've been in denial. [View all] Solly Mack Nov 2017 OP
I have a rather awful combination of anger and sadness/depression, myself. NRaleighLiberal Nov 2017 #1
Yes, exactly. A loss of interest in my passions. Well put! Solly Mack Nov 2017 #2
Same here. GoCubsGo Nov 2017 #12
. NRaleighLiberal Nov 2017 #16
Thanks. GoCubsGo Nov 2017 #18
I'm angry, more likely to lash out at Repubs over something Alice11111 Nov 2017 #33
They talk about the stages of grief -- and this administration -- I don't EVER want to get to Raine1967 Nov 2017 #3
Thank you, Raine. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #6
You are a bit mistaken about what acceptance means in the stages of grief lunatica Nov 2017 #56
I've been angry and pissed off since the election. Initech Nov 2017 #4
I need an anger outlet. I haven't picked up my camera in a while, not with any real enthusiasm. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #10
BTW, thanks for all you do! Ligyron Nov 2017 #58
I'd love to see the Top 10 at the front of DU every week! Initech Nov 2017 #63
Same here. SpankMe Nov 2017 #5
Oh wow. You win. I couldn't do that. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #11
I think that's true for most rational folks malaise Nov 2017 #7
I will sometimes watch after the fact, some clip online, but even that can be too much. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #13
Replace toxic hate with stone cold loathing. Much healthier and more effective. Take care. . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Nov 2017 #8
I usually can and am working on getting there. Thanks! Solly Mack Nov 2017 #14
You say it so perfectly.......and it IS EXACTLY HOW I FEEL AS WELL....... a kennedy Nov 2017 #9
Thanks, a kennedy Solly Mack Nov 2017 #15
I don't have any good advice to offer, because I am right there with you The Polack MSgt Nov 2017 #17
Thanks, The Polack MSgt Solly Mack Nov 2017 #19
I don't recommend drinking as much Rye as I do either... The Polack MSgt Nov 2017 #20
Not much of a drinker anyway. Walking the dogs does help. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #24
I have been drinking too much murielm99 Nov 2017 #29
Yeah, Me, Too Leith Nov 2017 #21
lol! Seriously! Would be nice if they would stay home. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #25
It took me over six months to get out of my funk over the election. But I see a way out of this ... emmett grogan Nov 2017 #22
You're right. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #26
If you can, go out and do something. murielm99 Nov 2017 #23
Thanks, murielm99 Solly Mack Nov 2017 #27
When did you visit Egypt? still_one Nov 2017 #28
My husband went without me. I was so jealous! Solly Mack Nov 2017 #31
.................................................................................................... still_one Nov 2017 #74
K&R... spanone Nov 2017 #30
:) Solly Mack Nov 2017 #32
👍🏼 spanone Nov 2017 #34
I have been living with a double dose of anger. mnhtnbb Nov 2017 #35
Thank you, mnhtnbb!! Solly Mack Nov 2017 #39
I have been consoling myself Mr.Bill Nov 2017 #36
It does feel different, to me, in that it feels like the years and years Solly Mack Nov 2017 #40
You know? You said it perfectly. Ineeda Nov 2017 #37
Sounds like a great gift! Thank you! That really helped!! Solly Mack Nov 2017 #41
cold, calm, and buried deep, mine too. elleng Nov 2017 #38
Yes! I worry for my nieces and nephews. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #42
Thank you, Solly saidsimplesimon Nov 2017 #43
I needed that reminder. Thank you, saidsimplesimon Solly Mack Nov 2017 #44
Yes, their aim relayerbob Nov 2017 #45
I agree. Lot of good in the world. Lot of beauty. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #47
I'm with you RhodeIslandOne Nov 2017 #46
So true DownriverDem Nov 2017 #50
Oh, I can relate. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #51
Can Relate DownriverDem Nov 2017 #48
I have fantasies of them waking up and knowing better. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #53
I have suffered a bad bout of depression get the red out Nov 2017 #49
Me, too. Maybe we can and will get through this together. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #54
They sure helped me! get the red out Nov 2017 #83
well stated G_j Nov 2017 #52
It isn't. I keep hoping to find my usual balance again. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #55
Its this type of thing that destroys me inside.. G_j Nov 2017 #97
Yup. Me too. redwitch Nov 2017 #57
There's comfort in not being alone but I sure want the reason for the togetherness to Solly Mack Nov 2017 #64
I can deal with dead zombies just fine. redwitch Nov 2017 #66
True. The solution there is clear. Dealing with the live ones takes more effort. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #69
I hear you gay texan Nov 2017 #59
I know! I think I know how stupid people can be then they go and prove me wrong. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #60
Just know it will never happen again humbled_opinion Nov 2017 #61
I don't know. Trump supporters would follow someone else like him. Or someone worse. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #65
at this point we greatly humbled_opinion Nov 2017 #78
A line from Angels in America sums it up for me srobertss Nov 2017 #62
Thank you. It's a day to day struggle. I think maybe by admitting how deep my anger goes I Solly Mack Nov 2017 #67
. Squinch Nov 2017 #68
It could be worse, I suppose. I think it best not to wonder about that though. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #71
You said it very well. I'm fighting against my desire to just shut it all out because I know I have Squinch Nov 2017 #73
I am a spiritual person, very compassionate. I tweet really mocking things to Trumpers on twitter adigal Nov 2017 #70
lol! Thank you! That was great. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #72
Counting the Days BBG Nov 2017 #75
Great advice. Thanks. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #76
Quarter Pounders aint peanuts BBG Nov 2017 #77
I know what you mean by angry disambiguation Nov 2017 #79
They are hypocrites. Ignorant hypocrites. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #91
I'm with you there, Solly. brer cat Nov 2017 #80
I find it's not as bad when I don't watch them on the tube. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #90
I think I might be similarly afflicted. Thank you! BadGimp Nov 2017 #81
You're welcome. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #89
K&R lordsummerisle Nov 2017 #82
Thank you. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #93
I have a lot of depression issues and have to be careful not to backslide... Hekate Nov 2017 #84
Congrats on the new house! Many happy years. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #87
I just read through the long list of replies and it made me think.... Grammy23 Nov 2017 #85
Thank you! I enjoyed reading your response. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #86
Yeah, it's like an episode from the Twilight Zone. kydo Nov 2017 #88
What a positive response to the anger! You're right, get better and fight back. Solly Mack Nov 2017 #92
Republicans fox propaganda tv, cheney wars & later the birth certificate fraud pushed by RW- Sunlei Nov 2017 #94
The lack of actual accountability has been a major cause to the continued existence Solly Mack Nov 2017 #95
Exactly. dchill Nov 2017 #96
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