Thats what she said joke at work, sexual Harrasment??

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68. I understand what you are saying but it isn't worth it

It isn't scapegoating its self protection. A couple years ago I saw a co-worker brought in to HR because he offered advice on a project to a female co-worker. He was older than her in more experienced at the job and thought he could help with a project she was assigned. She took great offense and felt as though he was being misogynistic and overbearing by mansplaining the job to her. Those were her words. It was preposterous and this guy is probably the gentlest person you could know.

He still got written up and had to apologize when he did nothing wrong. No it's not scapegoating its self protection.

I now work for my own practice but when I was in an office a lot of things changed over the last few years. The atmosphere was not nearly as collaborative and open as it could have been. Some men are not willing to go the extra mile to help female co-workers because that can be construed as improper attention. This has nothing to do with sex but it's still not worth it in many situations.

If I could help a female colleague with a project I would probably offer my advice to a third party such as a manager rather than go to them directly. Maybe that sounds mean or scapegoating I view it as self protection.