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lindysalsagal

(22,895 posts) Wed Nov 29, 2017, 08:59 PM Nov 2017

Question for the men: This is serious, not bait: Wondering what you're hearing. [View all]

As a middle aged woman, I'll never get a straight answer, so, I've really been wondering lately: With all the accusations of sexual mis-behavior.

What are men saying when there are no women around? I wouldn't blame them for being a little freaked out right now , the way the ground is moving underneath their feet.

Wondering if they question some or all of it, or if they really already knew men did this stuff.

Not looking to blame anyone on here, so, please, I don't want this thread to be negative. Just curious. Thanks.

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Question for the men: This is serious, not bait: Wondering what you're hearing. [View all] lindysalsagal Nov 2017 OP

I have seen numerous instances of sexually harassing behavior. guillaumeb Nov 2017 #1

Most men, and I do mean most, don't sexually harrass of abuse women. The ones who do or have... brush Nov 2017 #2

Men in general are just horny perverts ansible Nov 2017 #3

Wow! I appreciate your candor. Geez. lindysalsagal Nov 2017 #5

Don't Accept That Post As Truth! ProfessorGAC Nov 2017 #50

Since you posted this, I feel free to post a post from a FB friend with his permission. sadiegirl Nov 2017 #10

Amazing. I honestly would not have expected to hear anything like that. Thanks. lindysalsagal Nov 2017 #14

your post is nonsense CreekDog Nov 2017 #43

Ridiculous! ProfessorGAC Nov 2017 #51

ridiculous . . . a bit of projection, per chance? DrDan Nov 2017 #56

In the ''locker room" women are just conquests. YOHABLO Nov 2017 #4

Can I ask about that? lindysalsagal Nov 2017 #6

It's the whole truth bathroommonkey76 Nov 2017 #47

I do wonder about the "shopping" that the internet allows and if that changes the way people act. lindysalsagal Nov 2017 #53

The men I know find the behavior of these deviates disgusting and unimaginable Mr. Ected Nov 2017 #7

+1, not "locker room" talk uponit7771 Nov 2017 #9

That MOST of the men being fired are in the workplace and they have no life after work uponit7771 Nov 2017 #8

Nothing ornotna Nov 2017 #11

Yup. Corvo Bianco Nov 2017 #31

I think most people are like that Willie Pep Nov 2017 #36

My husband is baffled mcar Nov 2017 #12

because they have always gotten away with it? Skittles Nov 2017 #22

That's what I said mcar Nov 2017 #65

What am I hearing? GulfCoast66 Nov 2017 #13

Honestly? Adrahil Nov 2017 #15

Ive really appreciated comments from men who admit to doing something stupid in the past Iris Nov 2017 #27

Generally the men that are hostile to basic women's rights and economic rights Blue_true Nov 2017 #16

Gentlemen, can I say, I love this thread! This is awesome! lindysalsagal Nov 2017 #17

Agreed!! Iris Nov 2017 #29

Partly genetic with a large helping of power corrupting Lurks Often Nov 2017 #18

I don't know about that: Because it's not manly to be a victim of a woman. lindysalsagal Nov 2017 #19

Men and women have different biological imperatives. k2qb3 Nov 2017 #37

I'll agree that it"s generally considered "not manly to be a victim of a woman" Lurks Often Nov 2017 #61

"Disclosure" by Michael Crichton PJMcK Nov 2017 #63

It's not a small amount of men. Tavarious Jackson Nov 2017 #20

The subject doesn't come up. Kaleva Nov 2017 #21

Message auto-removed Name removed Nov 2017 #23

This is what I anticipated - what you have articulated. Dan Nov 2017 #30

. flamingdem Nov 2017 #38

Thanks for sharing Dan Nov 2017 #40

. flamingdem Nov 2017 #41

Post #23 Dan Nov 2017 #42

Some whine, but those tend to whine about mythology Nov 2017 #24

"Toxic masculinity." Wow. So honest. Real masculinity is protective supportive and lindysalsagal Nov 2017 #55

I've spoken about this with a number of men customerserviceguy Nov 2017 #25

None of my close male friends ever engaged in this kind of behavior. VOX Nov 2017 #26

Men know and they will also start to come forward. rwheeler31 Nov 2017 #28

If it is true that polls show Roy Moore will win and 40% still support Trump, then obviously Doodley Nov 2017 #32

Or simply don't believe the stories are true. n/t Beartracks Nov 2017 #34

My husband thinks women will now have the marlakay Nov 2017 #33

Some wonder why the men never look like George Clooney Freelancer Nov 2017 #35

Another HUGE issue is power tripping at work related to gender flamingdem Nov 2017 #39

I my entire working life I only ever met a few men like that. Binkie The Clown Nov 2017 #44

Varying degrees of shock or skepticism about certain accusations Sen. Walter Sobchak Nov 2017 #45

really doesn't come up much, from what i see 0rganism Nov 2017 #46

I had a long talk with my husband nadine_mn Nov 2017 #48

Haven't heard a thing DiverDave Nov 2017 #49

Pardon my cynicism GaryCnf Nov 2017 #52

Ok. That's fair. I have not weighed in on Al. But I did get honest answers and that's what I was hop lindysalsagal Nov 2017 #57

I worked for 2 major corporations for over 30 years. My BEST bosses were women. DrDan Nov 2017 #60

Appreciated GaryCnf Nov 2017 #62

Not a man but my BFF from 5th grade on is a man and I was the only girl out of 3 siblings GreenEyedLefty Nov 2017 #54

I work in a company that is 98% women Motownman78 Nov 2017 #58

I have yet to have a conversation where the victims were blamed . . . or even shared the blame DrDan Nov 2017 #59

Not male myself but grew up in 50s when all manner of abuse and harrassment was very much Kashkakat v.2.0 Nov 2017 #66

I recognize the culture you described having grown up late-50's - early 60s. Yep - and a lot went DrDan Nov 2017 #67

They should be freaked out. alarimer Nov 2017 #64

Lauer was bringing in the morning viewers, and so they didn't want to lose him or piss him off. $$$ lindysalsagal Nov 2017 #68

Some of it is just baffling. Drahthaardogs Nov 2017 #69