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In reply to the discussion: Joy Reid goes below the belt, Jane Sanders responds [View all]Demsrule86
(71,549 posts)I married a guy who was older than me who had a motorcycle, a black leather jacket and a fast car...in lust I think. He turned out to be a rat....abusive and into drugs...once put a loaded gun to my head and pulled the trigger...the gun did not fire. I walked out of there the next day after spending the night in a summer cabin with an unlocked door. We lived in WVA near a boy scout camp. I was lucky. I was a middle class kid with parents who loved me despite my mistakes... I went home to Connecticut and lived there with my oldest daughter who was too young to remember what happened-thank God...went to college and got a a decent job. My parents were the best. My Dad put my ex through rehab. He said it was a bad idea to have the father of my child in the gutter...he also go a lawyer and rescinded the ex's visitation... He did become sober, but I could never forgive him or have much to do with him...eventually he got to know his daughter and has never to my knowledge harmed his current wife...I was 18 and he was 24 when we married. I think sometimes that two people who should never have even dated somehow ended up married...and that we brought out the worst in each other...all the nastiness that is beneath the surface. I married my husband ...my soulmate some years later and we went to counseling as I still had some unresolved issues...in the middle of an argument...he pushed by me and I had like a flashback and slapped him so hard I actually made his nose bleed...so we went to therapy...Dr. L.... truly saved me from my demons and put us on the road to what has been an incredibly passionate happy marriage. We were blessed with three additional kids...and if my misspent youth was miserable...my later years have been happy and productive. I have told my story to many women's shelters and worked to give all women a chance...not just the middle class. I got a second chance...I want that for all women.