Why is it always young men? Is testosterone poisoning a problem?

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48. you can find the answer in "Backlash"

"As Ronald C. Kessler, who tracks changes in men's health at the University of Michigan's Institute for Social Research, says: 'All this business about how hard it is to be a single woman doesn't make much sense when you look at what's really going on. It's single men who have the worst of it. When men marry, their mental health massively increases.'

The mental health data, chronciled in dozens of studies that have looked at marital differences in the last forty years, are consistent and overwhelming: The suicide rate of single men is twice as highas that of married men. Single men suffer from nearly twice as many severe neurotic symptoms and are far more susceptible to nervous breakdowns, depression, even nightmares. And despite the all-American image of the carefree single cowboy, in reality bachelors are far more likely to be morose, passive, and phobic than married men.

When constrasted with single women, unwed men fared no better in mental health studies. Single men suffer from twice as many mental health impairments as single women; they are more depressed, more passive, more likely to experience nervous breakdowns and all the designated symptoms of psychological distress - from fainting to insomnia. In one study, one third of single men scored high for severe neurotic symptoms; only 4 percent of single women did."

Point is that a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle, whereas a man without a woman is like a fish that has been run over by a bicycle.

Think about what society puts on men - they are supposed to have glorious careers. They generally have to pursue the opposite sex. If a woman is single, it is likely true that she has rejected men who sought her. If a man is single, he has been rejected by the women that he sought.

You see how there is a huge difference there?

Further, men are not supposed to be weak. For a man to cry or seek some kind of emotional help would be unmanly. His pain and fear make him seem pathetic - even in his own eyes, to say nothing of what other men (and more importantly women) are gonna say and think about him.

I think of the scene in The Breakfast Club. Bender starts talking about how his father insults him, hits him, and burns him with a cigar for spilling paint. He then yells, knocks some books off the table, climbs up the stairs, stomps and sits by himself. Hurt gets converted into rage.

Think of a hurt child. If a girl gets hurt, she can start crying, run to mom or dad or her friends and they will comfort her, saying "what is wrong, princess?" If a boy gets hurt after a certain age, and runs to mom or dad crying, he's gonna be told "big boys don't cry" and no way in hell is he gonna turn to his male friends with hurts and fears. They would not know how to deal with it anyway if he even had the guts to try. Better to just punch a locker or a sofa or a smaller guy, and have a few beers (alcohol, of course, being a depressant).

This kid, being smart, had a whole lot of pressure on him. He was supposed to be able to do great things with his big brain. Promises were made to him all through his childhood. "Get good grades, goto college, and you get a good job." So he believed it, he played by the frigging rules - and he had squat to show for it. Working at Mickey D's? How degrading for a guy who scored 35 on the ACT. Are you kidding me? He miust have felt like the WORLD's BIGGEST LOSER. When you don't have a job, you don't have a girl what you do have is - REJECTION. You have been rejected by all of society, or so it feels. Nobody wants you. Nobody values you. No employer and no woman. Well, what woman would want an unemployed loser?

Well, when you have been rejected, it is very easy to start to hate. To hate all those other people who seem to have what you cannot get. To hate all those other people who don't care about you or your pain. See, I have been there. I can remember a few times walking back from some pointless job application in the rain. Walking, because I cannot afford a car, and feeling hate for all those people driving past me. They had cars, and probably jobs and spouses and families, and they just drove right by me. It was like I didn't even matter to them. As Tracy Ullman sorta joked "the world is cold, it's cruel, it's dirty, and it's full of people who hate you and are mean to you just because you are different." When you feel hated, it is very easy to hate right back.