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Honeycombe8

(37,648 posts)
9. This. Yes, this is how some men/boys view it.
Wed Dec 6, 2017, 11:14 AM
Dec 2017

I have a close friend, a gay male, and he's the same way. When he speaks of women for whatever reason (actress, politician, coworker) he almost always includes some reference to some physical feature, good or bad. He once said to me that it's a compliment when construction workers give wolf calls to passing women. After all, women like to be appreciated, don't they? It's a compliment!

Once I was driving to work down a very busy street that had construction. There, on the yellow CAT equipment being used to move concrete, was a large photo hanging off the window of the CAT, maybe 6 feet tall?...of a totally nude woman, complete with pube hair and such. I was so offended that I don't have words. It was a shocking sight to see suddenly, in public. And what it meant. Now WHY would a guy do that? What's the purpose? He's not reading a porn mag for his own purposes. So what was his purpose? It intentionally faced the public, the hundreds of cars passing by.

It was very insulting and offensive to all women, not to mention not fit to be in public in full view of everyone, including children.

(Thank goodness it was gone the next day. That's illegal, BTW. Public exhibition of pornography.)

But what was really disturbing was the purpose the guy did that.


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I hope your brother learned something from that exchange. CrispyQ Dec 2017 #1
That's it. Perfect statement. nt Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #5
My guess is it wasn't the 7 year old who started the conversation. Merlot Dec 2017 #2
I hadn't thought it that way. But you're right. Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #6
Discussing women as if they are commodities is demeaning, whether they can hear it Amaryllis Dec 2017 #14
Yes, my brother would be open to further discussion. Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #16
Your point about them thinking it was okay becasue they were "flattering" rather Amaryllis Dec 2017 #17
Good for you...You did an important, necessary thing. whathehell Dec 2017 #3
Glad you said something. InAbLuEsTaTe Dec 2017 #4
Your story is a great example of male bonding at the expense of women. chowder66 Dec 2017 #7
Commenting on a woman's body parts is NOT complimenting her. PoindexterOglethorpe Dec 2017 #8
This. Yes, this is how some men/boys view it. Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #9
You did the best you could in an awkward situation Orrex Dec 2017 #10
you did the correct thing, and good for you! I always speak up--never have worried about niyad Dec 2017 #11
Boys are constantly bombarded Turbineguy Dec 2017 #12
Most excellent! mahannah Dec 2017 #13
Unfortunately, RandomAccess Dec 2017 #15
You see this when driving Kaleva Dec 2017 #18
When my son was 7, he told another boy to grab a girl's butt Dream Girl Dec 2017 #19
7 could be good age to teach consent IronLionZion Dec 2017 #21
Women(everyone) in service jobs can't escape and their job is to be polite to customers IronLionZion Dec 2017 #20
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