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Honeycombe8

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16. Yes, my brother would be open to further discussion.
Wed Dec 6, 2017, 01:11 PM
Dec 2017

He was raised with four sisters and a mother. He does recognize females as people, not just sex objects. But he has that typical 1950s male viewpoint, as well, hidden in there.

That was 7 years ago, but my nephew is 14 now. Still very impressionable...and even more important now.

He's a good guy with a good heart. A big burly former motorcycle gang guy, with white hair, now, and overweight. (No tattoos or anything...he does have a sense of what's tacky and low class.)

He was as repulsed by Trump's statements about p* grabbing as women were. He said that he's been in locker rooms and had lots of talks with guys over the years, of course...including very crude guys. He said that most men do NOT talk that way...that's NOT locker room talk.

I might remind him of our Dave & Buster's night & ask him if he thinks my nephew got the message that females shouldn't be talked about that way, esp when they are just doing their jobs and can't talk back.

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I hope your brother learned something from that exchange. CrispyQ Dec 2017 #1
That's it. Perfect statement. nt Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #5
My guess is it wasn't the 7 year old who started the conversation. Merlot Dec 2017 #2
I hadn't thought it that way. But you're right. Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #6
Discussing women as if they are commodities is demeaning, whether they can hear it Amaryllis Dec 2017 #14
Yes, my brother would be open to further discussion. Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #16
Your point about them thinking it was okay becasue they were "flattering" rather Amaryllis Dec 2017 #17
Good for you...You did an important, necessary thing. whathehell Dec 2017 #3
Glad you said something. InAbLuEsTaTe Dec 2017 #4
Your story is a great example of male bonding at the expense of women. chowder66 Dec 2017 #7
Commenting on a woman's body parts is NOT complimenting her. PoindexterOglethorpe Dec 2017 #8
This. Yes, this is how some men/boys view it. Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #9
You did the best you could in an awkward situation Orrex Dec 2017 #10
you did the correct thing, and good for you! I always speak up--never have worried about niyad Dec 2017 #11
Boys are constantly bombarded Turbineguy Dec 2017 #12
Most excellent! mahannah Dec 2017 #13
Unfortunately, RandomAccess Dec 2017 #15
You see this when driving Kaleva Dec 2017 #18
When my son was 7, he told another boy to grab a girl's butt Dream Girl Dec 2017 #19
7 could be good age to teach consent IronLionZion Dec 2017 #21
Women(everyone) in service jobs can't escape and their job is to be polite to customers IronLionZion Dec 2017 #20
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