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19. When my son was 7, he told another boy to grab a girl's butt

Wed Dec 6, 2017, 01:49 PM

Dec 2017

He told this kid "girls like it when you do that". We were contacted by the school and we dealt with it by explaining that you never touch someone like that in their "private areas". To this day, I don't know where he got this idea that "girls like it" except that sometimes my husband would touch my butt in an affectionate way, while we're preparing dinner etc. Certainly no one in our household ever said that girls want to be groped. My husband is a total feminist and does not objectify women in any way. Our son said that he didn't know why he thought girls would like unwanted touching. In any event, the school took it very seriously and this was ten years ago. Today he might have gotten expelled. He has never had an incident like this since and he considers himself a feminist too.

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How young boys are taught to view (harass?) women? [View all] Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 OP

I hope your brother learned something from that exchange. CrispyQ Dec 2017 #1

That's it. Perfect statement. nt Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #5

My guess is it wasn't the 7 year old who started the conversation. Merlot Dec 2017 #2

I hadn't thought it that way. But you're right. Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #6

Discussing women as if they are commodities is demeaning, whether they can hear it Amaryllis Dec 2017 #14

Yes, my brother would be open to further discussion. Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #16

Your point about them thinking it was okay becasue they were "flattering" rather Amaryllis Dec 2017 #17

Good for you...You did an important, necessary thing. whathehell Dec 2017 #3

Glad you said something. InAbLuEsTaTe Dec 2017 #4

Your story is a great example of male bonding at the expense of women. chowder66 Dec 2017 #7

Commenting on a woman's body parts is NOT complimenting her. PoindexterOglethorpe Dec 2017 #8

This. Yes, this is how some men/boys view it. Honeycombe8 Dec 2017 #9

You did the best you could in an awkward situation Orrex Dec 2017 #10

you did the correct thing, and good for you! I always speak up--never have worried about niyad Dec 2017 #11

Boys are constantly bombarded Turbineguy Dec 2017 #12

Most excellent! mahannah Dec 2017 #13

Unfortunately, RandomAccess Dec 2017 #15

You see this when driving Kaleva Dec 2017 #18

When my son was 7, he told another boy to grab a girl's butt Dream Girl Dec 2017 #19

7 could be good age to teach consent IronLionZion Dec 2017 #21

Women(everyone) in service jobs can't escape and their job is to be polite to customers IronLionZion Dec 2017 #20