Franken accuser Tina Depuy is full of shit

[haele]

139. Squeezed or put pressure against?

I've had a "waist roll" in one size or another for a couple decades now, and have been in many group pictures.
Inevitably, when bunching close together, the person who is putting their off hand around my waist to pull me in for the group photo "squeezes" or puts some form of pressure that felt like squeezing because my fat roll was being pushed into my body just so I could fit in the photo.

She may not have been used to that. I can understand that, it was really surprising the first few times I realized I wasn't still in my high-school/physically active shape any more and there was more of me hanging around than I mentally conceptualized getting in the way. I now expect that when I am part of a group photo, I'm going to be "squeezed" if I don't want to stand off to the side or directly in front pushing others out of the picture.

As for "feeling like an ornament", most people would wonder she feel like that when it was a picture for her and she was using the celebrity as the ornament.
I've felt like an ornament before, and that was due to an environment when I had less social standing than the other, and there was a power dynamic in play. I was asked to enter that situation without being informed as the real reason why that person wanted me to be there; I didn't ask to be there and be used for someone else's purpose, and I was very resentful because I was being used.

I'm not saying she's lying about her feelings.
I'm just saying that either her feelings are so tightly wound as to be way out on the fringes of "reasonable expectation" that anything can cause her upset - or she's cynically treating an actual issue like a low-slung bandwagon she can easily climb onto for attention or personal ego-building.

We can never really understand what people are feeling and where their boundaries are, and it's an extremely difficult landmine to cross, as despite unearned historical privileges and social assumptions, all adults have both the right to their own feelings and boundaries and the responsibility to recognize and negotiate where the intersection of their feelings and boundaries are with those of others - and still maintain the ability for everyone to function throughout life.

Haele