When "He abducted her, tied her up and violently raped her" gets the same repercusions as...

[KitSileya]

69. Talk about not understanding the world we live in.

Too many women (and men) have already experience *both* being violently raped and having their behind patted without their consent. In fact, that victim of violent rape might have had their hard-won recovery set back significantly *because* of that pat.

That is the world we live in - where for too many women and others it isn't either/or, but both, and where that violent rape started with a non-consensual pat on the back, or a hand that moved where it shouldn't in full public. That's how way too many violent rapists find their victims and their defenders - they check how much a potential victim has been socialized to accept that pat on the behind without making a scene. After all, as you say, it is trivial to be patted on the behind without consent. Most rapists don't jump out of the bushes and attack women. Most rapists are your friends, your family members, your co-workers - they thrive when people like you, Binkie, put sexual assault in hierarchies. When women and children and men are told that we shouldn't make a fuss about a pat on our behind because at least we weren't violently raped. Because it is so incredibly common for rapists to use boundary violating techniques - those boundaries women are told not to make a fuss if are violated and that it is their fault, in fact, if they are violated - they sue these techniques to find their victims and to make sure that those around them will give cover to them if the victim isn't as compliant as they hope.

Rapists, Binkie, want you to make the very post you made here, because they know that having non-rapists say these things robs victims of their hope that they'll be heard and believed. After all, if Binkie tells us adult women that we shouldn't make such a fuss about being patted on our behind without our consent, why should the 14-year old rape victim think that Binkie will believe her or him when they tell their story?