Is Ryan Lizza another set up?

[KitSileya]

37. I think it's time to face the truth. Too many on our side minimize this

because they damn well know they've aided and abetted harassers and rapists in their personal circle. It makes them feel better if they can defend these folks and disparage the victims. Who hasn't a guy friend who they've described as "handsy"? Warned unsuspecting young women not to be alone with a colleague or laughed (albeit half-heartedly) when Uncle Bob jokes about prison rape - instead of confronting them? They've defended the guy who gives unwanted massages by claiming he's socially awkward (but never questioned why he only gives those massages to women, and not men and women.) They've kept a friendship with a guy even when female friends ghosted because he was creepy. They've closed ranks against the problem kid in the family - even though they deep down know that their cousin/brother/grandparent is fishy, and the problem kid only started acting out after spending time with the fishy relative. After all, it's faaaaamily.


We, and especially men who know better, feel guilty, and we attack the victims because we are ashamed of ourselves, because we didn't speak out even though our own privilege means that we could speak out with a lot less chance of backlash than the victims.