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mercuryblues

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29. The thing is
Thu Jun 23, 2016, 04:17 PM
Jun 2016

This starts for females very young. I was still playing with dolls the first time I was harassed. By the time I was 14 I had a range of replies to respond with. By the time I was 20, I stopped noticing it.

The men doing the harassment were usually men, not boys, in groups and high 5ing each other. The comments were vile. Not cutesy like the term cat-calling implies. There were times where I was in fear for my safety, walking home from school. If a male has not learned by the time they are in their 20's to keep their hands to themselves and stop saying vile sexually explicit things to females of any age, then yes I am for the law stepping in.

Females have the right to be in public spaces without being verbally or physically assaulted. Men do not have the right to reach out and touch someone as they wish.

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While all well and good, Lunabell Jun 2016 #1
I think this is great Craig234 Jun 2016 #2
No offense, but you are not a woman He loved Big Brother Jun 2016 #5
I believe you Craig234 Jun 2016 #9
Once I walked in that part of town with my roommate / friend Quantess Jun 2016 #11
I understand Craig234 Jun 2016 #24
+1000 smirkymonkey Jun 2016 #38
We know it's a minority of males who are the bad apples. We know. Thanks. Quantess Jun 2016 #7
I'm sorry to hear that Craig234 Jun 2016 #8
I didn' say you particularly are in denial, but Quantess Jun 2016 #12
That's the difficulty in discussing issues Craig234 Jun 2016 #25
The thing is mercuryblues Jun 2016 #29
I agree Craig234 Jun 2016 #33
Rape culture mercuryblues Jun 2016 #36
Come on. Craig234 Jun 2016 #40
I am sorry mercuryblues Jun 2016 #44
You're doing it again. Craig234 Jun 2016 #45
People are complicated Craig234 Jun 2016 #41
What I'm hearing you say is that because men grind on women hundreds of times a year in the Brickbat Jun 2016 #18
Not really Craig234 Jun 2016 #26
While a single incident is unacceptable and worthy of prosecution Android3.14 Jun 2016 #3
Those are the REPORTED cases geek tragedy Jun 2016 #4
Back in the 80s phylny Jun 2016 #6
what's changed isn't that it's happening more or less, it's that it's taken this long geek tragedy Jun 2016 #10
Back when I worked in the city... KK9 Jun 2016 #17
It happened to me on a bus FlaGranny Jun 2016 #13
I'm sorry to hear that Android3.14 Jun 2016 #14
Oh, you poor thing! FlaGranny Jun 2016 #15
Why are people so interested in minimizing this issue? Brickbat Jun 2016 #19
The real question should be, what are the chances this will happen to me when I ride the subway? Android3.14 Jun 2016 #20
"The real question should be, what are the chances this will happen to me when I ride the subway?" Brickbat Jun 2016 #21
Exactly. What are some actual statistics? Android3.14 Jun 2016 #22
I find it telling that you keep bringing this back to yourself and your own experience. Brickbat Jun 2016 #23
I'm unsure what you are talking about now Android3.14 Jun 2016 #28
I imagine many people concern themselves with many things, great and small LanternWaste Jun 2016 #30
.. Android3.14 Jun 2016 #34
The media maximizes issues for more clicks Democat Jun 2016 #43
George Carlin said this about men and women... vkkv Jun 2016 #16
Great quote. Nt JudyM Jun 2016 #37
I had that happen to me more than once lunatica Jun 2016 #27
It's far worse in Japan. Archae Jun 2016 #31
Why not just have an officer on board? romanic Jun 2016 #32
This message was self-deleted by its author rjsquirrel Jun 2016 #35
Time to carry a TigerLady! Ilsa Jun 2016 #39
Good to hear IgelJames4 Jun 2016 #42
I'm not sure it's just a few creepy guys. leftyladyfrommo Jun 2016 #46
this article, i presume maxsolomon Jun 2016 #47
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