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41. Off topic but slightly related...

Mon Dec 17, 2018, 12:12 AM

Dec 2018

I wish people would stop assuming that something is "wrong" with people who are in a committed relationship but don't have, and don't want, children. My wife and I have been married for almost 8 years, and have no intention whatsoever of having children. For one thing, she can't conceive because of endometriosis, and even if she could, we don't want kids anyway. We have cats, and I don't have to figure out how to put a cat through university.

When you tell some people that, they stare at you like you're some bizarre alien being. It's perfectly possible to have a family of two, and it's actually nice not having children. If we wanna go out for dinner and a movie, we don't have to sort out getting a sitter and all that jazz. We just go.

Like I said, off topic but slightly related, and it's always been something that just grinds my gears.

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Cory Booker addresses speculation about his sexuality: 'I'm heterosexual' [View all] Julian Englis Dec 2018 OP

It never occurred to me one way or the other. NurseJackie Dec 2018 #1

Exactly. Who was trying to make this into an issue? ProudLib72 Dec 2018 #2

Absolutely to what you two say...who cares and what does it matter? nt SWBTATTReg Dec 2018 #3

tRump tried to. n/t Julian Englis Dec 2018 #4

Me either JDC Dec 2018 #26

The Philadelphia Inquirer has no business even asking questions about someone's sexuality. InAbLuEsTaTe Dec 2018 #5

agree that this shouldn't be an issue. It's 2018, not 1918. iluvtennis Dec 2018 #6

This is a perfect time for an "I don't care do you?" MiniMe Dec 2018 #7

It's 2018, isn't it? BlueStater Dec 2018 #8

LOL... PeeJ52 Dec 2018 #9

gopers, gropers, and Tiny followers.... that's who cares. groundloop Dec 2018 #17

I never heard that rumor. I actually think that would be a plus, if he were. Honeycombe8 Dec 2018 #10

He is 49 and single--some folks just wonder if.... riversedge Dec 2018 #12

Ahhh. I wonder why he's not married. Honeycombe8 Dec 2018 #13

Grover Cleveland (a single man) and Woodrow Wilson and John Tyler Glorfindel Dec 2018 #21

Old Grover won despite a sex scandal. Marcuse Dec 2018 #44

And don't forget Fitzgerald Grant Bucky Dec 2018 #49

a la Lindsey Graham.. paleotn Dec 2018 #18

I didn't get married until I was 55. I met my wife when I was 45, it was the best day of my life! George II Dec 2018 #25

some people just never find the right one treestar Dec 2018 #56

Yup. It's all about finding the right person TexasBushwhacker Dec 2018 #62

Cory being single is the story for the P. Inquirer....... riversedge Dec 2018 #11

That is not insignificant oberliner Dec 2018 #15

I guess it's not absolutely necessary. But the First Lady does have an important role in the W.H. Honeycombe8 Dec 2018 #16

Well, it's not like we have one, now is it ? Haggis for Breakfast Dec 2018 #30

someone else does it treestar Dec 2018 #55

Yes, someone has to decorate the White House for Christmas and plan the Easter egg roll. politicaljunkie41910 Dec 2018 #65

Is that all you think Michelle Obama did? Plan the egg roll & decorate the W.H? Honeycombe8 Dec 2018 #67

America hasn't elected an unmarried president in over 130 years oberliner Dec 2018 #14

Buchanan, was likely homosexual though. bitterross Dec 2018 #43

Wilson lost his wife while in office Bucky Dec 2018 #50

He remarried fairly soon after she died oberliner Dec 2018 #53

The question has been raised over past elections left-of-center2012 Dec 2018 #19

I think any bonafide Democrat or humanitarian shouldn't even want to know. LakeArenal Dec 2018 #20

Everything about a Presidential candidate is the business of the public. Honeycombe8 Dec 2018 #47

I still say somethings are none of our business. LakeArenal Dec 2018 #51

You can say whatever you want. The Presidential candidate's marriage status is legitimate.... Honeycombe8 Dec 2018 #59

So get over it. You know. geez LakeArenal Dec 2018 #60

Considering the current POTUS, this should be a non-issue.... Heartstrings Dec 2018 #64

And 5 years ago they claimed he was involved with a Portland stripper IronLionZion Dec 2018 #22

Gotta' ask......... MyOwnPeace Dec 2018 #27

It's ridiculous that someone in this day and age has to even address something like this..... George II Dec 2018 #23

OK - gay man weighing in here.... moose65 Dec 2018 #24

I'll second this n/t gay texan Dec 2018 #34

Lindsey Graham gives me more of a sexual deviant vibe frankly TexasBushwhacker Dec 2018 #52

I have excellent gaydar, and he never even came close to registering.......nt Heartstrings Dec 2018 #63

Come on now ripcord Dec 2018 #28

tRumps preference is narcissism nt elmac Dec 2018 #29

why is it always a rumor with black men? jay1124 Dec 2018 #31

Not always black men--look at Pensce & Lindsay Graham. n/t Julian Englis Dec 2018 #32

well let me explain jay1124 Dec 2018 #36

Welcome to DU! You make a good point about "boy" but please note that the same point spooky3 Dec 2018 #37

You don't think calling a white Republican closeted gay is emasculating? Bucky Dec 2018 #54

with black men it is partly about racism also. they are either violent thugs or weak and gay. they JI7 Dec 2018 #48

who gives an eff? shanny Dec 2018 #33

I just spent an entire weekend celebrating my 67 yo. friend's marriage! mentalsolstice Dec 2018 #35

And some day our society will evolve to the point where it accepts that spooky3 Dec 2018 #38

Off topic but slightly related... Jedi Guy Dec 2018 #41

Agree. You would think that we would have evolved more at this point to spooky3 Dec 2018 #42

+1 treestar Dec 2018 #57

Why does it matter whether he's heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, or asexual? Or anything else? Jedi Guy Dec 2018 #39

Booker has my support. roamer65 Dec 2018 #40

The only issue here is that there are those who judge others StarryNite Dec 2018 #45

Let's say he's lying. Glamrock Dec 2018 #46

I'm shocked that the question saw being asked. And sad Sen Booker had to answer it. marble falls Dec 2018 #58

Oh what a relief..... Heartstrings Dec 2018 #61

If a gay person runs for President lunatica Dec 2018 #66