Is There a Gene for Motherhood?

[Liberal Veteran]

16. It doesn't really upset me.

I suspect something wasn't quite right about her. She had a habit of reinventing herself every few years and always treated the past as to be "not spoken of".

She left my father and us when I was 10 for another woman. I didn't see her for the next 10 years. Then 15 years later decided she wasn't really a lesbian.

I feel sorry her now, although she died a few years ago. I was quite angry with her prior to her death and basically told her she used people as props in whatever role she had decided she would be in her own fantasy world.

It is hard to psychoanalyze someone posthumously, but I suspect she was very uncomfortable with herself and spent her life searching for who she really was.

Unfortunately, she hurt a lot of people in that search. Abandoning 3 kids, not learning how to co-exist on the same planet as her ex-husband so we could have both parents.

But she was definitely not a maternal person.