Father will be reunited with baby adopted without his knowledge, judge rules

[Xithras]

89. I've known many young women who adopted children out. That's true for NONE of them.

It's not a matter of there being "no negative consequences". It's a matter of adoption providing fewer negative consequences than keeping the child. Most young women who give up children do so because they are incapable of caring for the child, or because the child will have a damaging impact on the life they are building.

Nobody should be forced to be a parent, and nobody should be forced to be constantly reminded of their past mistakes. I can understand why this might be painful for some kids, but life isn't always clean and neat.

I wouldn't have a problem with some sort of minimal information sharing becoming mandatory in the case of adoptions...racial history, a generalized family history, disease history, etc. But adoption itself should always remain a readily accessible choice, and the actual names of the parents and family should always be hidden unless the biological mother instructs otherwise. If the mother does not want the child present, that's her choice to make.