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LauraInLA

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23. Such a sad story. While reading I realized that my MIL and FIL were lucky not to share a similar fate.
Fri Mar 7, 2025, 06:28 PM
Mar 2025

They lived in a cottage in rural Ontario. She had severe dementia, and he was trying valiantly to care for her alone (difficult to get any help). He developed throat cancer which eventually led them to move to Ottawa for treatment — a care home for MIL while FIL underwent radiation, etc. it was a shock to everyone when he passed away there; he’d been in denial about his prognosis for some time. I can’t imagine what would have happened if he’d been stubborn and tried to stay in the cottage with her while undergoing treatment.

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Damn Strelnikov_ Mar 2025 #1
Also, did not know Hanta virus was still around Strelnikov_ Mar 2025 #6
It'll be around nearly forever WestMichRad Mar 2025 #27
another word for 'the plague', NotHardly Mar 2025 #29
Plague is endemic in the South. West and it is a bacteria that can be treated with antibiotics TexLaProgressive Mar 2025 #35
Hantavirus is a virus, while bubonic plague is bacterial. They aren't the same. n/t valleyrogue Mar 2025 #63
not hardly Kali Mar 2025 #65
And the poor dog in the crate died of starvation? Baitball Blogger Mar 2025 #2
Or possibly the carrier of the Hanta. A week is not enough to starve, though water might be a problem. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Mar 2025 #15
RuLe of threes maxsolomon Mar 2025 #18
Dogs do not transmit hantavirus, nor do they become symptomatic. They can carry in an infected rodent hlthe2b Mar 2025 #21
Would have been two weeks Mountainguy Mar 2025 #70
Very sad, but... Mike Nelson Mar 2025 #3
If the wife was in good health prior to suddenly dying exboyfil Mar 2025 #12
It doesn't make sense unless she was functioning ok until sudden death AdamGG Mar 2025 #72
Yes. Or what about family members or friends? Silver Gaia Mar 2025 #26
Similar to the situation here CountAllVotes Mar 2025 #38
I am so sorry you had to bear this alone. Whatever is in your future I hope it contains some caring friends. efhmc Mar 2025 #41
I was very isolated CountAllVotes Mar 2025 #46
I'm so sorry LittleGirl Mar 2025 #48
Thank you CountAllVotes Mar 2025 #51
I'm glad she's been showing up LittleGirl Mar 2025 #57
Whew, I was fortunate my Mom was a good neighbor IbogaProject Mar 2025 #68
I am so sorry! Silver Gaia Mar 2025 #60
I am very sorry. ellenrr Mar 2025 #79
Such a tragedy, despite his age. greatauntoftriplets Mar 2025 #4
Hantavirus is a rodent-born virus and there is no pill that would treat it. hlthe2b Mar 2025 #7
Thanks. greatauntoftriplets Mar 2025 #9
No, fortunately... hlthe2b Mar 2025 #11
I should have guessed because virus is in the name. greatauntoftriplets Mar 2025 #13
It isn't so self-explanatory. Ironically University of New Mexico University hospital is quite experienced hlthe2b Mar 2025 #17
I've heard of ECMO. greatauntoftriplets Mar 2025 #19
Thank you for this information. I had forgotten about this virus. efhmc Mar 2025 #43
Hantavirus Pulmonary syndrome does cause pulmonary edema but becomes signficant only just before hlthe2b Mar 2025 #5
Yeah, many are speculating that she was only last heard from on the 11th, but died a few days later. LeftInTX Mar 2025 #32
My husband lost the ability to breathe, swallow or speak CountAllVotes Mar 2025 #39
Your husband died of Hantavirus Pulmonary Syndrome? I am so sorry to hear. Where were you living? hlthe2b Mar 2025 #54
Apparently no one was looking in on them. harumph Mar 2025 #8
She wasn't that old. LisaL Mar 2025 #22
It seems that Mr. Hackman was unable, by himself, to sustain nutrition and hydration. n/t John1956PA Mar 2025 #10
Yes, very sad - and probably took heart meds too. nt TBF Mar 2025 #61
How awfully sad. They had money for help. Although she was younger and probably coping Srkdqltr Mar 2025 #14
She died from an infectious disease. LisaL Mar 2025 #20
Hackman died they think a week before she did. He must have had severe dementia Bengus81 Mar 2025 #24
No, he died a week after her. Apparently he was not able to care for himself Liberty Belle Mar 2025 #31
I rarely hear from others CountAllVotes Mar 2025 #40
Count us in to hear from you. I use to do meals on wheels with my mother in Dallas and part of supplying nutrition efhmc Mar 2025 #47
Where I live it is frozen dinners CountAllVotes Mar 2025 #49
The info I got was from Texas and the program is still available in Austin, Dallas and SA. efhmc Mar 2025 #53
For now. If they get federal funds Musk will probably cut it. n/t totodeinhere Mar 2025 #67
we hear you Skittles Mar 2025 #71
Your correct...duh,I typed it in just backwards. I just can't imagine he wandering around Bengus81 Mar 2025 #73
So very sad. mzmolly Mar 2025 #16
Such a sad story. While reading I realized that my MIL and FIL were lucky not to share a similar fate. LauraInLA Mar 2025 #23
No one wants to give up their freedom and admit they can not care for themselves. efhmc Mar 2025 #50
It's possible that she didn't know she had that particular virus. Rhiagel Mar 2025 #25
Wow, thats sad. Figarosmom Mar 2025 #28
The rodent infestation doesn't have to be in a home. LisaL Mar 2025 #30
Hantavirus is a concern when staying in trail shelters because of that. maxsolomon Mar 2025 #34
Or that their home had a rodent infestation CountAllVotes Mar 2025 #42
Or an outbuilding. maxsolomon Mar 2025 #44
This is so sad. cksmithy Mar 2025 #33
Vascular dementia CountAllVotes Mar 2025 #45
He probably was very private and didn't want people to know. May have even been very vehement about it when he was still efhmc Mar 2025 #52
This message was self-deleted by its author CountAllVotes Mar 2025 #78
That'sn extremely sad thing to learn. cstanleytech Mar 2025 #36
Very sad 😔 Luciferous Mar 2025 #37
That poor man JustAnotherGen Mar 2025 #55
Oh man purr-rat beauty Mar 2025 #56
People get old and die Botany Mar 2025 #58
Sad for the family - TBF Mar 2025 #59
One of the saddest stories out there. valleyrogue Mar 2025 #62
Very tragic. nt Xipe Totec Mar 2025 #64
Good Lord, that is tragic . . . SarcasticSatyr Mar 2025 #66
Given the narrative they have stated thus far I would moniss Mar 2025 #69
This is a very sad story. It seems Hackman's wife died a week before he did. He had Alzheimer's, so one can only Martin68 Mar 2025 #74
A shame all around, regardless of the details. twodogsbarking Mar 2025 #75
And the dog ? republianmushroom Mar 2025 #76
Gene was not dehydrated according to the ME Saoirse9 Mar 2025 #77
Wife must have known she was seriously ill Mysterian Mar 2025 #80
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