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caseymoz

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25. Yeah, but the difference is . . .

Thu Feb 21, 2013, 02:58 AM

Feb 2013

. . . the poster has an "Ignore" button and can keep it on until things cool down. Not only that, there are juries that can remove the offending posts and also a means of locking and removing threads if they get out of control.

In the real life school yard, you can't ignore because then you get assaulted and battered. Moderators, or whoever, cannot "lock" the school yard fight. You don't have teams of jury kids throwing the bullies out of the yard. In fact, since it's all written, you have to read the posts instead of involuntarily hearing insults called to you. The victim can also just leave if they're hurt until their feelings heal then come back and defend themselves. The stakes and avoidability are both different.

Therefore, you're wrong. It's extremely different than the school yard, and you just never thought of the many ways before.

It isn't bullying. Sorry.

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Wow. We agree! caseymoz Feb 2013 #46

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Yeah, but the difference is . . . caseymoz Feb 2013 #25

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Which is why you don't have to keep it on forever. caseymoz Feb 2013 #28

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Sorry, you don't get to either. caseymoz Feb 2013 #39

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