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davidpdx

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22. I know this is a bit off topic

Fri Sep 12, 2014, 11:57 PM

Sep 2014

But I think people who have been physically, sexually, or emotionally abused as a child should really think about whether they can handle having children. I am not saying it is their fault nor am I saying every person who has been abused will abuse their children, but that the cycle of violence and abuse has a way of repeating itself.

Personally for me I had a crappy childhood with lots of problems. It has always made me think whether I could handle having children or not. I chose fairly early on as an adult that I didn't. It is a personal choice and maybe a bit of an extreme one, but given the similarities between myself and my parents I think it would be a bad decision for me to have kids. Granted there are still times when I think of what it would have been like to be a parent. I still have nieces and nephews who's lives I can take part in to a certain degree.

I just feel very bad for kids who grow up with abuse at the hands of their parents who were also abused.

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Warrant issued for arrest of Vikings' Peterson (Trigger Warning: Graphic description of child abuse) [View all] Bjorn Against Sep 2014 OP

I am really at a loss trying to figure this out. I thought as a society we had moved on madinmaryland Sep 2014 #1

Unfortunately we haven't (as a whole). nt awoke_in_2003 Sep 2014 #18

That was not disipline. Those pics are from a week after the beating Sopkoviak Sep 2014 #2

That was just a flat out beating ripcord Sep 2014 #36

Is it certain that he wasn't involved in the death of his child last year? JVS Sep 2014 #3

Yes, he had never met the kid. NaturalHigh Sep 2014 #44

Wow, I was 12 when my dad hit me in the face the first time rickyhall Sep 2014 #4

I sympathize cali Sep 2014 #6

There was a time when this wasnt called abuse, it was called a whooping 951-Riverside Sep 2014 #5

It is child abuse and there is no excuse for it Bjorn Against Sep 2014 #8

Its the worst thing in the world to hear about but... 951-Riverside Sep 2014 #12

Believe me I am all too aware it happens, I care for a child who suffered brain damage from abuse Bjorn Against Sep 2014 #13

my mother was beaten as a child 10 kids and the depression hollysmom Sep 2014 #32

It's criminal abuse and your generalizations are a heaping pile of shit. shame. cali Sep 2014 #9

??????????????? onecent Sep 2014 #14

His own lawyer has implied rocktivity Sep 2014 #15

Not defending him because he is an abuser. But as a social worker who investigated abuse you jwirr Sep 2014 #20

For my parents' generation, it was discipline, not abuse -- and "everybody did it" rocktivity Sep 2014 #24

stuffing leaves in the mouth of th kid for crying is not reasonable punishment in any culture hollysmom Sep 2014 #34

I totally agree with what you have said about Peterson. He has lived in a very progressive state jwirr Sep 2014 #41

was popular among southern whites too. My mother loved to use switches CBGLuthier Sep 2014 #17

Others use bare hands on bare behinds and swear it's not abuse. Dont call me Shirley Sep 2014 #19

Not sure where that photo is from Blue_Tires Sep 2014 #23

but not just Black families....White families in the South too.... VanillaRhapsody Sep 2014 #30

The words I always dreaded to hear when I was at a friend's house: Art_from_Ark Sep 2014 #45

It was pretty abusive at my house..... VanillaRhapsody Sep 2014 #47

This is abuse plain and simple obama2terms Sep 2014 #40

Football brain trauma ErikJ Sep 2014 #7

and 'roids. hollysmom Sep 2014 #35

�Daddy Peterson...� Is that a direct quote? rocktivity Sep 2014 #10

The child lives with his mother and was visiting Peterson Bjorn Against Sep 2014 #11

Link says he repeated what was done to him as a child. The long line of abuse must be broken. freshwest Sep 2014 #16

I know this is a bit off topic davidpdx Sep 2014 #22

There was a pro athlete who grew up with so much abuse rocktivity Sep 2014 #25

I think that's a bit late to deal with such trama davidpdx Sep 2014 #26

You made the right choice for you. I think some haven't comprehended their own wounds, but you have. freshwest Sep 2014 #27

I should add to the story that when I was 19 I had a close call davidpdx Sep 2014 #29

Its exactly why I didn't have children.....I didn't want to become that..... VanillaRhapsody Sep 2014 #31

I'm glad to hear you got out and that you didn't have kids davidpdx Sep 2014 #37

Ahhh stupid people.... the_sly_pig Sep 2014 #21

And there in lies the problem davidpdx Sep 2014 #28

These are moneymakers for the corporations. Also, ignorant bullies who in now way should be TheNutcracker Sep 2014 #33

Good parents are made not born. DU needs to think before we attack. kickysnana Sep 2014 #38

I broke my cycle. WTF should I forgive an asshole who went to college and still did this? CBGLuthier Sep 2014 #39

Nice language. I can tell you are good with kids. n/t kickysnana Sep 2014 #43

what a piece of shit d_b Sep 2014 #42

Watch for how this plays out in Montgomery County, Texas. Paladin Sep 2014 #46