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TlalocW

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9. Sorry for your loss and the weirdness.
Sat May 4, 2019, 01:40 AM
May 2019

I'm always amazed at how religion really hijacks everything. I can understand if that's what the deceased wanted, and even if there were no specific requests having a ceremony done by what a minister of whatever denomination they were, but making attempts at getting people to be born again instead of remembering the deceased... I think that's kind of abuse of the pulpit.

With some of my family, it's more they put on religious airs. When my grandma passed in her mid-90s, her son (my uncle) eulogized her and made sure everyone knew she made some sort of statement of faith (to him) before she passed. He gave us a date, which was a mistake, because then those of us closest (whether relationship-wise or by distance) to Grandma knew she was physically incapable of doing so at that point.

Years later at my mother's funeral, that uncle's wife (he had since passed) told a story where she had visited Mom when she was on her downward spiral health-wise and asked if she were "prepared," and Mom said something like she was too wicked and didn't think she was going to get there, and my aunt asked if she had accepted Jesus, and Mom said she had, and my aunt explained to her then she was going, and that cheered her right up. I think all the siblings and I looked askance at each other at that story. First, I don't think Mom ever considered herself wicked, and second, she wasn't an idiot. She knew how Christianity worked. I could tell my aunt was fishing for people to ask to be saved - she just wasn't very good at it.

As for me, I'm an atheist, and while I know I won't care when I'm dead what people say, I'm enough of a control freak that I want to make it known anyone trying to shoehorn religion into my life is full of it. Also, I want to come up with a playlist of all the songs that are played. Ending with this...



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Quite a while back... jberryhill May 2019 #1
I was at a high school baccalaureate some years back. PoindexterOglethorpe May 2019 #7
"Mediums" at seances used to ask the marks to close their eyes. lagomorph777 May 2019 #18
I went to a funeral conducted by a selftaught minister. He hit on every means of salvation Karadeniz May 2019 #2
Wow, man. Ohiogal May 2019 #3
Evangelicals... Yeah, they're something MrScorpio May 2019 #4
Fundie evangelicals have no shame... Thomas Hurt May 2019 #5
I had to listen to that horseshit at my uncles funeral in Tennessee. n/t 3Hotdogs May 2019 #6
When my mother died some 20 years ago, PoindexterOglethorpe May 2019 #8
Sorry for your loss and the weirdness. TlalocW May 2019 #9
Then I remember when my father died. Mom was kinda Catholic. Dad didn't give a shit. 3Hotdogs May 2019 #10
Yeah - even the Presbyterians are going fire & brimstone csziggy May 2019 #11
There are a couple of flavors of Presbyterian jberryhill May 2019 #19
Theirs is a Southern Presbyterian congregation csziggy May 2019 #21
As they say in Texas shadowmayor May 2019 #12
Presbyterian is Evangelical? Ha... czarjak May 2019 #13
No he wasn't Presbyterian underpants May 2019 #14
"Non-Demonminational" - iow, I hung out a shingle and now I preach Teh Crazeee! hatrack May 2019 #15
Hey! underpants May 2019 #16
"For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God - even Underpants." hatrack May 2019 #17
About how often do your underpants fall? jberryhill May 2019 #20
I prefer larger denominations, like Benjamins jberryhill May 2019 #23
Yes, they can be - see my post above with a link to the church I attended as a child csziggy May 2019 #22
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