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grr8wine

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39. I conceived and gave birth to a child

Fri Oct 26, 2012, 06:01 PM

Oct 2012

by a very abusive "boyfriend" who would not allow me money for birth control or an abortion. I was young and had no self esteem, he isolated me from family and friends, kept me under his thumb. Fortunately I did have government assistance to turn to, I was able to break away. I raised my daughter, got an education, and bought my own home. I benefited and grew beyond the need of government support. My point....my daughter is an adult now, bi-polar, like her father. Was she a "gift from God"? She was conceived by a form of rape. Her life has been a roller coaster. She will be dependent on the government for years to come due to her inherited mental disability. I would not wish her life on anyone. I have loved her unconditionally, but what quality of life does she have?

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At 14, it was no �Gift from God�, Trust Me [View all] sinkingfeeling Oct 2012 OP

It never stops horrifying me when I find out how common this is. LiberalLoner Oct 2012 #1

You are NOT THE ONLY ONE... there is only one way to deal with men like this. Raster Oct 2012 #4

Excellent! nt N_E_1 for Tennis Oct 2012 #15

This message was self-deleted by its author hootinholler Oct 2012 #28

Yes I am, but only in a theoretical sense. Men - and it is ALWAYS men - who abuse and hurt need... Raster Oct 2012 #31

This message was self-deleted by its author hootinholler Oct 2012 #33

Seriously, please point out the last time you read about an evil, vile woman, raping and.... Raster Oct 2012 #34

Post removed Post removed Oct 2012 #54

Me, neither. 25 years ago, a friend told me she had been raised in a horrific household; she and Nay Oct 2012 #19

Rec for visibility - TBF Oct 2012 #2

+1 ffr Oct 2012 #7

There are not enough words... BanzaiBonnie Oct 2012 #3

Okay, I saw enough RED BanzaiBonnie Oct 2012 #5

Trust me, there are plenty of us who had this, or something a lot like this, happen to us. LiberalLoner Oct 2012 #8

You are so not alone beachgirl2365 Oct 2012 #10

Thank you, Beachgirl. It helps when all of us break the silence and say "we are here." LiberalLoner Oct 2012 #26

"I never thought I'd become a single issue voter. But you have to be this year." Drale Oct 2012 #6

Well said, thank you! JNelson6563 Oct 2012 #32

K&R Solly Mack Oct 2012 #9

Dearest brave woman you have my deepest sympathies and I so admire your courage to talk about this kimbutgar Oct 2012 #11

So sorry you suffered at the hands of all those men, especially LibGranny Oct 2012 #12

Thank you for posting this solara Oct 2012 #13

How anyone could say that any part of an experience like rape could be a gift from god AlbertCat Oct 2012 #18

That is a chilling story Bluzmann57 Oct 2012 #14

Castrated with a dull, rusty knife with no anesthetic. No antibiotics. Raster Oct 2012 #30

A Lorena Bobbitt for sure Dont call me Shirley Oct 2012 #37

Lorena For President! deadbrokediva Oct 2012 #55

If life is a gift from god... AlbertCat Oct 2012 #16

This makes me wish there was a Hell for people like this. progressoid Oct 2012 #17

I' m so sorry dear. Thank you for speaking out. mahina Oct 2012 #20

k and r Berlum Oct 2012 #21

K & R SoapBox Oct 2012 #22

Awful, but it's good that these frogmarch Oct 2012 #23

This is a great video, and it is very triggering but absolutely worth watching anyway. LiberalLoner Oct 2012 #27

Ryan and Akin's attempt to change the definition of rape to "forcible rape" was to... Spazito Oct 2012 #24

This message was self-deleted by its author libdem4life Oct 2012 #35

This message was self-deleted by its author MadDash Oct 2012 #25

This world would be a lot happier without people bringing God into every f-ing situation. AAO Oct 2012 #29

44% of rape victims are under 18; 15% are under 12. Rapists pick on the vulnerable; so do Repukes. SunSeeker Oct 2012 #36

Survivors we are! Survivors of too much abuse and rape. Keep speaking up! Dont call me Shirley Oct 2012 #38

I conceived and gave birth to a child grr8wine Oct 2012 #39

Known too many people neffernin Oct 2012 #40

Thank you for sharing Prophet 451 Oct 2012 #41

i am so sorry you had to grow up in that environment Delmette Oct 2012 #42

Ahh for fucks sake, these stories enrage me. a la izquierda Oct 2012 #43

Bless you randr Oct 2012 #44

It pains me to hear gift of God and rape in the same paragraph. Thinkingabout Oct 2012 #45

The poster femrap Oct 2012 #46

I wish this lady would send this clydefrand Oct 2012 #47

But he's already "struggled" with it and has made his decision. You don't get to refuse the gift his Dark n Stormy Knight Oct 2012 #50

By all that is good and decent, Heathen57 Oct 2012 #48

You have my empathy. HCE SuiGeneris Oct 2012 #49

This same thing happend to my friend and her whole family MFM008 Oct 2012 #51

So horrifying, I can hardly bear it klook Oct 2012 #52

This made me very sad... GTurck Oct 2012 #53

Oh My God, Awful Shuhered Oct 2012 #56

I think every Puke who says stupid shit about rape should be assumed to be rapists... Odin2005 Oct 2012 #57