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LuckyTheDog

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11. I hope the intention here is not to demonize adoptive parents

Wed Aug 8, 2012, 10:18 AM

Aug 2012

My son was born to a woman who determined she could not care for him properly. She also really wanted him to grow up with a dad, which otherwise would not have been an option.

When my son is older and feels ready, I would encourage him to have a relationship with his birth mother. But that will be between the two of them.

I have not stolen anything from him. He is my son and as much a part of our family as anyone else.

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Adoption Affects on Birthmothers [View all] me b zola Aug 2012 OP

Effects Tunkamerica Aug 2012 #1

Affects is the verb. Effects is the noun. OP is correct. 1monster Aug 2012 #10

And the sentence only makes sense if a marybourg Aug 2012 #34

There is ONE reason that my son was available for adoption. MarianJack Aug 2012 #2

Thanks for your post customerserviceguy Aug 2012 #3

No Thanks needed. MarianJack Aug 2012 #4

MarianJack Diclotican Aug 2012 #7

When we took custody of our son,... MarianJack Aug 2012 #18

MarianJack Diclotican Aug 2012 #28

I'm an infant adoptee myself customerserviceguy Aug 2012 #39

I think that in his heart of hearts,... MarianJack Aug 2012 #43

You don't know that she didn't WANT BlueToTheBone Aug 2012 #5

Speaking as a person who wasactually there... MarianJack Aug 2012 #6

Well, I'm glad you wanted the child. BlueToTheBone Aug 2012 #8

He isn't "the child"... MarianJack Aug 2012 #13

Exactly. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #33

No, you do not know...... citizen blues Aug 2012 #52

Well pardon my dumb ass for believing... MarianJack Aug 2012 #53

Just have some compassion... citizen blues Aug 2012 #54

Scorn isn't an issue here. MarianJack Aug 2012 #55

EXACTLY PhoenixR Nov 2012 #60

Absolutely. LuckyTheDog Aug 2012 #12

Our son came into our lives when he was 2 1/2 months old. MarianJack Aug 2012 #14

This post was not intended to insult or hurt adoptive parents me b zola Aug 2012 #20

At least three of the mothers in that video have acquired contact with their children. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #21

The insensitivity of your post made me catch my breath me b zola Aug 2012 #25

And the insensitivity of yours annoyed me pretty good. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #30

What the fuck is this AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #32

Post removed Post removed Nov 2012 #59

Ours was an open adoption. MarianJack Aug 2012 #42

Statistically speaking AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #22

If he ever chooses to meet his birth mother,... MarianJack Aug 2012 #41

Statistics are about odds, whom is more likely... me b zola Aug 2012 #56

Odds, and also understanding historical track records. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #57

Understand the implications. no_hypocrisy Aug 2012 #9

The problem isn't the sealing of the birth records. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #23

You are promoting identity theft me b zola Aug 2012 #26

Promoting? You just essentially accused me of PARTICIPATING in it. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #31

You seem to be a willing participant me b zola Aug 2012 #36

You seem to think it's a problem at all. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #37

Post removed Post removed Aug 2012 #44

You don't seem to understand the issue you are advocating. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #46

My first/birth mother didn't have a choice me b zola Aug 2012 #48

And you would be laughed at. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #49

You are serioulsy ill me b zola Aug 2012 #50

That arrangement is not your concern, nor is it a 'civil right'. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #51

So would I PhoenixR Nov 2012 #61

I don't know what your problem is AtheistCrusader Nov 2012 #63

Also, I've already taken care to obtain the medical history of the AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #47

Post removed Post removed Nov 2012 #62

I hope the intention here is not to demonize adoptive parents LuckyTheDog Aug 2012 #11

When our son isn't around,... MarianJack Aug 2012 #15

The intent of the women in the video or mine? me b zola Aug 2012 #19

Sounds like a strawman. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #24

That is the lie that these brave activists are exposing me b zola Aug 2012 #27

No it isn't. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #29

Post removed Post removed Nov 2012 #58

You haven't sourced the alleged 'lie'. AtheistCrusader Aug 2012 #38

huh. i wish to publicly thank my birth mother for handing me over to the most xchrom Aug 2012 #16

As an adoptive dad, all I can say to you, xchrom, is... MarianJack Aug 2012 #17

To me, the issue isn't to be against the adoptive parents...I don't ever think that. Neoma Aug 2012 #35

A couple of years ago Maine unsealed the records for adults who were adopted as children. Gormy Cuss Aug 2012 #40

Thank you for sharing your experience me b zola Aug 2012 #45