Adoption Affects on Birthmothers

[citizen blues]

52. No, you do not know......

You could not read her mind. You don't know what circumstances she came out of. You got a snap shot of one moment in time and drew your conclusions from that. It seems rather presumptuous that you assume that's the entire story.

As a birthmother, I cannot even begin to express how truly excruciating that decision was. It left me shattered. My daughter is now 33 years old and we have been in reunion for years now. Yet anytime I think about making that decision, I am still overwhelmed with tears. Even with other traumatic times, that was by far the most emotionally scarring event of my life. And I'm not alone in that.

I've seen many other birthmothers as well. We all handle it differently. I've even seen some who do act coldly and convince themselves they don't want their children because it's the only way they can psychologically survive.

Like I said, you don't have the whole story.