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Freddie

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4. Maybe if I kind of knew them

Sun Jul 29, 2018, 07:00 PM

Jul 2018

From sitting across the settlement table years ago, or if they had a family with them. Can't happen to me, we bought our house new construction (20 years ago).
Was almost in that position, DH was talking to a co-worker and found out that this person's uncle lives in our former home from the 80s. Was curious to see it again but the uncle does not allow visitors as he is a hoarder and apparently this 900 sf townhouse is filled to the ceilings with crap. And still has the carpets and wallpaper that we put in back then.

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If someone who used to live in your house 20 years ago came by wanted wanted to see inside... [View all] Phentex Jul 2018 OP

Probably not. dameatball Jul 2018 #1

I'd be afraid they were "casing the place"... hlthe2b Jul 2018 #3

that's how I am leaning Phentex Aug 2018 #71

Only if there was a wife & kids with him donkeypoofed Jul 2018 #2

It's possible he'd be here with the nosy neighbor who knows him... Phentex Aug 2018 #72

Maybe if I kind of knew them Freddie Jul 2018 #4

I'm not a hoarder but I'm not a house person... Phentex Aug 2018 #73

I have a while back Mike Rows His Boat Jul 2018 #5

That is very eerie. 3catwoman3 Jul 2018 #44

another good point... Phentex Aug 2018 #74

no thanks politely first nt msongs Jul 2018 #6

basically I said I wasn't comfortable with it... Phentex Aug 2018 #75

No Chance. GP6971 Jul 2018 #7

just makes me wonder... Phentex Aug 2018 #76

Happened to me. Glamrock Jul 2018 #8

as I said above... Phentex Aug 2018 #77

I did, and I know that the reason is strange but I allowed it... SWBTATTReg Jul 2018 #9

That would make me consider it... Phentex Aug 2018 #78

Seems like we all have nosy neighbors! A pox on nosy nieghbors! I SWBTATTReg Aug 2018 #121

It happened to me and my wife once. brush Jul 2018 #10

Wow! Phentex Aug 2018 #80

stranger danger saidsimplesimon Jul 2018 #11

It's odd... Phentex Aug 2018 #81

I actually did this. LuckyCharms Jul 2018 #12

I've got people and dogs... Phentex Aug 2018 #82

I would b/c I know the names of the family members who sold us our house 60+ years ago. no_hypocrisy Jul 2018 #13

When you were selling you probably had it all fixed up and ready to see... Phentex Aug 2018 #84

My reaction would be no catrose Jul 2018 #14

But they invited you... Phentex Aug 2018 #86

Oh, I wouldn't have been offended at all catrose Aug 2018 #124

No. Polly Hennessey Jul 2018 #15

to the point Phentex Aug 2018 #87

Not possible HeiressofBickworth Jul 2018 #16

I've got two... Phentex Aug 2018 #88

Nope..because the police have been here looking for them before nadine_mn Jul 2018 #17

That's more than I want to know about the previous owners... Phentex Aug 2018 #89

Definitely, if I knew it was legit Awsi Dooger Jul 2018 #18

I just can't imagine the benefit to him... Phentex Aug 2018 #90

Depends. If a lone man, no. If a family or husband and wife, yes. sinkingfeeling Jul 2018 #19

As far as I know, he isn't married... Phentex Aug 2018 #92

It would completely depend on the vibe I get from the people. But I would pnwest Jul 2018 #20

I often make such decisions True Dough Jul 2018 #40

someone would need to keep an eye on the dogs... Phentex Aug 2018 #93

That's what I would have said. llmart Aug 2018 #175

I was asked and said no. Delmette2.0 Jul 2018 #21

I like the second part of your message... Phentex Aug 2018 #94

Thank you. Delmette2.0 Aug 2018 #97

We get some from the college of the previous owner... Phentex Aug 2018 #100

Yep, that is the worst. Delmette2.0 Aug 2018 #108

I can't figure out email changes... Phentex Aug 2018 #110

My theory is... Delmette2.0 Aug 2018 #123

Generally not, but once it might depend on various things. struggle4progress Jul 2018 #22

That's sweet... Phentex Aug 2018 #95

When we first bought the house we live in now blueinredohio Jul 2018 #23

That's nice you had a good visit... Phentex Aug 2018 #96

I'm also from a small town. blueinredohio Aug 2018 #179

I actually was the one asking TlalocW Jul 2018 #24

Well, you tried... Phentex Aug 2018 #98

There are no houses from my personal history to visit csziggy Jul 2018 #25

There was an old country store in my family's history... Phentex Aug 2018 #101

Of course I would janterry Jul 2018 #26

That's nice of you... Phentex Aug 2018 #102

no absolutely not vlyons Jul 2018 #27

I've got nothing decent to steal... Phentex Aug 2018 #103

Its been done to me, and I've done it ghostsinthemachine Jul 2018 #28

That's interesting... Phentex Aug 2018 #104

Wait for the house to come up for sale exboyfil Jul 2018 #29

as I posted above... Phentex Aug 2018 #105

I've asked and been babylonsister Jul 2018 #30

Part of me wishes I could just say okay... Phentex Aug 2018 #106

Well, I went to the house where I grew up. madamesilverspurs Jul 2018 #31

That's kinda funny about the wife... Phentex Aug 2018 #109

Not in these times. democratisphere Jul 2018 #32

He just the man who was a boy when he lived here... Phentex Aug 2018 #111

Happened to me. mia Jul 2018 #33

I don't think there's anything unique about my house... Phentex Aug 2018 #112

hell no heaven05 Jul 2018 #34

HA! Phentex Aug 2018 #113

As a hypothetical, probably not, and any exception would depend on the specifics RockRaven Jul 2018 #35

all good points... Phentex Aug 2018 #114

Since I'm only the third owner of my place PoindexterOglethorpe Jul 2018 #36

There's nothing to steal... Phentex Aug 2018 #115

sure Kali Jul 2018 #37

Honestly, I could never visit you... Phentex Aug 2018 #116

LOL Kali Aug 2018 #172

Since we've lived in this house 25 years, I'd know it was a lie. Croney Jul 2018 #38

My sister said the same thing... Phentex Aug 2018 #117

I asked to see the inside of my grandmother's house... Grasswire2 Jul 2018 #39

Sounds like a house with history... Phentex Aug 2018 #118

Yes, unless I got bad vibes for some reason RandomAccess Jul 2018 #41

My vibes... Phentex Aug 2018 #119

We've done it. gibraltar72 Jul 2018 #42

sounds like many people have... Phentex Aug 2018 #120

Yes, at least the living room, dining room, etc, if I recognized their name and they looked OK. Shrike47 Jul 2018 #43

looks like many feel the same... Phentex Aug 2018 #122

The house my dad grew up in is in the... 3catwoman3 Jul 2018 #45

some history there... Phentex Aug 2018 #125

I probably wouldn't. MissB Jul 2018 #46

Mine will be torn down... Phentex Aug 2018 #127

The only ones who lived in my place 20 years ago sakabatou Jul 2018 #47

That's pretty cool... Phentex Aug 2018 #128

I didn't let the people in when they came. NNadir Jul 2018 #48

I think most understand... Phentex Aug 2018 #129

Nope. Aristus Jul 2018 #49

understandable... Phentex Aug 2018 #130

See you then! Aristus Aug 2018 #142

When the people that owned the house I lived in from when I was 3 to 12 years old I asked their doc03 Jul 2018 #50

Nice you had good memories... Phentex Aug 2018 #131

If I knew they lived there, would probably let them in if it wasn't a mess. Hoyt Jul 2018 #51

Well, he doesn't know us... Phentex Aug 2018 #132

Yes. I think they would enjoy seeing the improvements. patricia92243 Jul 2018 #52

maybe you're right... Phentex Aug 2018 #133

Depends Chris Studio Jul 2018 #53

Maybe I should actually meet him first... Phentex Aug 2018 #134

I went by my old childhood home (60's and 70's)... steve2470 Jul 2018 #54

I never do that... Phentex Aug 2018 #135

I experienced almost the opposite thing just last week Rhiannon12866 Jul 2018 #55

Fascinating! Phentex Aug 2018 #136

Probably would let them in MaryMagdaline Jul 2018 #56

I can say our house is solid... Phentex Aug 2018 #137

This Actually Happened RobinA Jul 2018 #57

That's cool! Phentex Aug 2018 #138

I've thought about re-visiting the childhood home gratuitous Jul 2018 #58

It's possible I'd feel differently if Phentex Aug 2018 #139

I did. bif Jul 2018 #59

interesting... Phentex Aug 2018 #140

I think the decision depends on where you live. dixiegrrrrl Jul 2018 #60

It probably does... Phentex Aug 2018 #141

Yes. Harker Jul 2018 #61

If this dude dropped by and he had lived there fifty years ago - absolutely!!!! Brother Buzz Jul 2018 #62

OMG! Phentex Aug 2018 #144

My oldest son did this at two houses mnhtnbb Jul 2018 #63

I remember visiting my aunt's house Phentex Aug 2018 #145

Depends on the situation. The house we just bought, yes because we met Luciferous Jul 2018 #64

I could see that... Phentex Aug 2018 #146

20 years ago I would scratch my whistler162 Jul 2018 #65

the more I read... Phentex Aug 2018 #147

Yes, I did this a few years ago for a woman who said she grew up in the house. jalan48 Jul 2018 #66

basically same response as above... Phentex Aug 2018 #148

She was elderly and it had been over 50 years so maybe a bit different. jalan48 Aug 2018 #174

They have stopped by a couple times. Years apart. Sisters who lived in our back house... Tikki Jul 2018 #67

Maybe that's what he's up to... Phentex Aug 2018 #149

Sure if they seem like ok people. Fla Dem Jul 2018 #68

We found an old Coke bottle in the walls... Phentex Aug 2018 #150

I'd have to ask them a question, ... JustABozoOnThisBus Jul 2018 #69

HA! Phentex Aug 2018 #151

Not sure how I answered 10 years ago, but today I'd say No. (n/t) Iggo Jul 2018 #70

that's how I'm leaning... Phentex Aug 2018 #152

maybe DBoon Aug 2018 #79

Presentable is relative... Phentex Aug 2018 #153

in my house, it is presentable when my wife says so DBoon Aug 2018 #161

Ha! Phentex Aug 2018 #163

If you're curious about your old house Freddie Aug 2018 #83

My sister said the owner of our last childhood home just died... Phentex Aug 2018 #155

Yes, if that someone could prove to me that someone had actually lived there. ooky Aug 2018 #85

I don't have any doubt he lived here... Phentex Aug 2018 #156

It happened to me and I let them in (same person twice) n/t TubbersUK Aug 2018 #91

Twice even? Phentex Aug 2018 #157

It seemed to be an emotional thing for him TubbersUK Aug 2018 #170

I've visited z couple of ho,es with significance to me The Genealogist Aug 2018 #99

For people with good memories... Phentex Aug 2018 #159

Say no Renew Deal Aug 2018 #107

the correct answer is... Phentex Aug 2018 #160

All the houses I grew up in have been radically "modernized" by dull people with too much money. hunter Aug 2018 #126

I'm pretty sure that's what will happen to this house... Phentex Aug 2018 #162

I think it's a mistake for them to ask Rorey Aug 2018 #143

Certainly a mixed bag of feelings... Phentex Aug 2018 #164

Nope mahina Aug 2018 #154

I feel like it's me too... Phentex Aug 2018 #165

Right? What's the worst that could happen? Is it compensated by the possible best outcome? mahina Aug 2018 #171

I have met some very interesting people that way randr Aug 2018 #158

If there was some sort of history... Phentex Aug 2018 #166

A few years ago I drove by a house I'd lived in Turbineguy Aug 2018 #167

I do go by the old house every now and again... Iggo Aug 2018 #168

Wow - There is no trust left in America. lamsmy Aug 2018 #169

The guy who we brought our house from was really nice to us kimbutgar Aug 2018 #173

Heck no. Our house was built in 2004. TygrBright Aug 2018 #176

That happened to me. A woman, she told me dem4decades Aug 2018 #177

No. I barely have time for all the Jehovah's Witnesses dropping by. dameatball Aug 2018 #178