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40. This discussion has been helpful. I have decided to offer to pay him for appts. I have downtown,

Reply to qwlauren35 (Reply #39)

Tue Aug 21, 2018, 01:20 PM

Aug 2018

such as my hair stylist or a doctor's appt.

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Our friend keeps borrowing money from me... [View all] CTyankee Aug 2018 OP

CTyankee, madaboutharry Aug 2018 #1

Thanks, mad. CTyankee Aug 2018 #7

why are you reluctant to pay him for helping you out?? Grasswire2 Aug 2018 #28

Ask him (nicely, of course) to sign a note. The Velveteen Ocelot Aug 2018 #2

Just say no. Friends don't constantly take advantage of others. kysrsoze Aug 2018 #3

That's kinda what my husband told him. He said it was his policy not to give out loans to friends. CTyankee Aug 2018 #8

Stop calling it a loan, then. Grasswire2 Aug 2018 #29

I see what you are saying but he offers to do stuff for us without mentioning any "payment." CTyankee Aug 2018 #35

20.00 isn't a lot. I wouldn't have given 80.00 Crutchez_CuiBono Aug 2018 #4

You might want to think this way Just Carl Aug 2018 #5

I'd cut him off TEB Aug 2018 #6

If I don't hear from him by next weekend I am going to call him and ask about the new job. CTyankee Aug 2018 #9

The money you gave him is gone, so just cut the strings. procon Aug 2018 #10

Instead of 'loaning' money, which you will never see again, you could pay him to drive to the doctor Shrike47 Aug 2018 #11

Not saying that what he does is right, Hav Aug 2018 #12

He drives me in my car to get me gas. He lives nearby and can walk over to my house. CTyankee Aug 2018 #13

How would you get there if he didn't drive you downtown? nt Grasswire2 Aug 2018 #30

I've taken taxis. CTyankee Aug 2018 #36

and you would have to pay a taxi. Grasswire2 Aug 2018 #37

I will! CTyankee Aug 2018 #38

Be upfront with him. Fla Dem Aug 2018 #14

I really want to hear from him about the $80. An explanation of what happened. CTyankee Aug 2018 #15

Not much of a 'talk,' I'd say, elleng Aug 2018 #16

I got the impression that he just junked the car. CTyankee Aug 2018 #20

You are entitled to know, at least to ask. elleng Aug 2018 #22

You are right. I'd like to hear that from him. It would clear up lots of things and make us all CTyankee Aug 2018 #23

I never loan out money. Eko Aug 2018 #17

Me too- Give, don't lend. dawg day Aug 2018 #32

I had a friend gratuitous Aug 2018 #18

Just tell him that you need the money he owes you, and ask when you can expect it. If he gives you Floyd R. Turbo Aug 2018 #19

I would hesitate to do that since he serves as a volunteer on my husband's committee on the CTyankee Aug 2018 #21

If that's it, then be up front with him and tell him this: Grasswire2 Aug 2018 #31

There are people I "loan" money to knowing I'll never get it back. hunter Aug 2018 #24

I know. I just want to know what it is with him. CTyankee Aug 2018 #25

Has he ever paid you back? If not, he won't and I'd forget it. I'd also offer him a bit to bettyellen Aug 2018 #26

I try REALLY hard not to get into this mess with friends DFW Aug 2018 #27

You are completely entitled to have a talk. forgotmylogin Aug 2018 #33

Neither a lender nor borrower be onetexan Aug 2018 #34

It's a gift, not a loan. qwlauren35 Aug 2018 #39

This discussion has been helpful. I have decided to offer to pay him for appts. I have downtown, CTyankee Aug 2018 #40