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KatyaR

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84. Honey, I'm right there with you.

Mon May 28, 2012, 11:32 AM

May 2012

I'm having such a hard time, I feel like I'm totally stuck. I've cut back on pretty much everything I can, and I'm still stuck. Nothing and no one to fall back on. I need a second job so badly, but my job requires me to get permission to get another job (which I think is totally illegal, but what can you do?), and I'm pretty sure my boss will say no, but of course she's living fine, so why aren't I? Plus the fact that I'm so down and depressed from my situation that I can't possibly imagine having to be away from home any more than I already am, a second job sounds totally unappealing. And then there's the dog to think about--he needs me to be around. So here I am, stuck.

Most days I can barely drag myself out of bed. And yes, like you, I realize people have it worse--some of my neighbors, in fact. But it doesn't make me feel any better, either.

Take care, you....

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I'm so sick of being poor [View all] nobodyspecial May 2012 OP

This is so wrong. And this is so common. rug May 2012 #1

And what really bugs me is how so many people nobodyspecial May 2012 #4

No, every problem is serious. rug May 2012 #6

We tried with Occupy Mosaic May 2012 #73

Geez, it's not like the Battle of Brooklyn was lost again. rug May 2012 #74

That is so true....I have been unemployed 4+ years and I sunwyn May 2012 #29

I overheard a conversation of 20-somethings, MsPithy May 2012 #34

I hope they weren't serious. Courtesy Flush May 2012 #37

How about in the military? raccoon May 2012 #66

Don't count on it Coyote_Bandit May 2012 #78

Moot point. Clames May 2012 #86

It wasn't a moot point to the guy it happened to Coyote_Bandit May 2012 #87

Sorry about your buddy... Clames May 2012 #93

I suspect Coyote_Bandit May 2012 #97

In jail all they will do is pull teeth, nothing more. xtraxritical May 2012 #40

You are changing careers to a higher paying, more secure one? Honeycombe8 May 2012 #68

It's sometimes possible to find a small a/c unit at Goodwill LiberalEsto May 2012 #88

What a good tip. Now that I think of it, if I get a larger window a/c, I probably would give my old Honeycombe8 May 2012 #90

Spent $1300 for one crown recently ProfessionalLeftist May 2012 #70

The fact that this goes on Worried senior May 2012 #2

I'm so sorry, my dear nobodyspecial... CaliforniaPeggy May 2012 #3

me too. although just got a little windfall. i started getting my social security. trueblue2007 May 2012 #5

i am really sorry for you, and just because people may have it worse, doesn't mean La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #7

I understand dana_b May 2012 #8

I have no insurance at all right now nobodyspecial May 2012 #16

yes, I thought of that dana_b May 2012 #33

Some ideas about the A/C Kaleva May 2012 #9

Thank you for your hands-on suggestions nobodyspecial May 2012 #17

Feel free to PM me. OffWithTheirHeads will be very helpful too. Kaleva May 2012 #26

There is a lot of online help Warpy May 2012 #47

low tech help Pat Riot May 2012 #79

Better yet FloridaJudy May 2012 #99

The same problem femrap May 2012 #85

You might want to post in the DIY forum too. LiberalEsto May 2012 #89

Lets see if we can fix your AC. It could be something simple. OffWithTheirHeads May 2012 #10

I'll take you up on your offer nobodyspecial May 2012 #18

I dont have air-conditioning silentwarrior May 2012 #24

I live in the desert and often find I can cope Warpy May 2012 #48

Of course. If you live anywhere near Tucson, let me know and I'll just come over and fix it. OffWithTheirHeads May 2012 #51

I wonder if you would be interested in volunteering your skills? Kali May 2012 #53

Actually, I tried to voleunteer for Habitat For Humanity. OffWithTheirHeads May 2012 #54

it does seem like the non-profit universe in Tucson is pretty cliquey Kali May 2012 #55

Yeah, it's just kind of wierd. OffWithTheirHeads May 2012 #56

trust me I know how you feel Kali May 2012 #57

I had a similar experience with literacy tutoring in Madison, WI a couple decades ago. I have an coalition_unwilling May 2012 #61

Kali here is a link to a national Freecycle Organization. Most states have one crunch60 May 2012 #63

yep - they actually started in Tucson! Kali May 2012 #77

I buy a lot of things from Habitat, they have crunch60 May 2012 #62

They may just be disorganized. wildeyed May 2012 #71

I can't speak for your union rules but if you are receiving SSDI mysuzuki2 May 2012 #83

was going to ask if you Like Cherlston backwoodsbob May 2012 #94

That is so kind cally May 2012 #96

I had one woman call me up one night saying she had no heat. Furance hadn't come on in awhile. Kaleva May 2012 #23

You are a good man Sherman A1 May 2012 #35

Thank you for your kindness and truedelphi May 2012 #42

I would have felt I was ripping them off if I had charged them. Kaleva May 2012 #44

"nobodyspecial" I don't like your user name, you are somebody special. and you are loved. 1620rock May 2012 #11

Rec'd a thousand times. You ARE special, you are a DUer, and you are loved. secondwind May 2012 #12

Right on 1620rock wendylaroux May 2012 #14

Thanks nobodyspecial May 2012 #28

Same to you from me. And can you get the dog into some water during the day? freshwest May 2012 #58

I thought the same thing n/t dana_b May 2012 #30

Glad you posted that. I was about to say the same... BlueJazz May 2012 #46

I like the user name JustABozoOnThisBus May 2012 #76

Roughing it when you're young is an adventure. Doing so middle aged is depressing. Think young..... SleeplessinSoCal May 2012 #13

Yep, I was poor before when I was younger nobodyspecial May 2012 #22

You have a perfect right to your feelings XanaDUer May 2012 #15

I have no answers. Just a hug and a hope for better days ahead when you graduate riderinthestorm May 2012 #19

It's incredible that Jamaal510 May 2012 #20

I know the feeling well. I dream about seeing a dentist. Walk away May 2012 #21

Not even close nobodyspecial May 2012 #25

I really hope your luck changes soon - and an idea for your dog spooky3 May 2012 #27

that is a good idea, and I hope eople in her area truedelphi May 2012 #43

.... maria2 May 2012 #31

So many of us are in dire straits... chervilant May 2012 #32

I swear to God, if Kevorkian was running for President, he'd truedelphi May 2012 #45

According to another DU post, chervilant May 2012 #49

That sounds about right. truedelphi May 2012 #59

I don't know a thing about air conditioners, MsPithy May 2012 #36

You might want to google AC repairs Courtesy Flush May 2012 #38

I know how you feel. GoCubsGo May 2012 #39

Boy, do I feel your pain. crim son May 2012 #41

If there is a Costco near you, get your prescriptions filled there LiberalEsto May 2012 #91

Three words: "You're not alone." Amerigo Vespucci May 2012 #50

wet towels and a fan will help get you through Kali May 2012 #52

Great ideas CrawlingChaos May 2012 #65

You are not alone. Joe Shlabotnik May 2012 #60

Me too. The only peace I have is sleep... & that's only when I can. snappyturtle May 2012 #72

I'm bookmarking this thread because there's a lot of good information, links, advice. lamp_shade May 2012 #64

big hugs backwoodsbob May 2012 #67

Dental care. In my city we have a dental school (Baylor). Honeycombe8 May 2012 #69

air conditioner efilon May 2012 #75

. Coyote_Bandit May 2012 #80

I feel the same exact way Proud Liberal Dem May 2012 #81

you are not alone magical thyme May 2012 #82

Honey, I'm right there with you. KatyaR May 2012 #84

I hear you. onestepforward May 2012 #92

It's like a chess game KT2000 May 2012 #95

You are not alone Digit May 2012 #98

Plain white cotton towels, run under cold water. Wring it out a bit then jtuck004 May 2012 #100

Ditto that... opiate69 May 2012 #101